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Sluagh — Sat Nov 07, 2009 1:13 pm

Author: Sluagh

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 1:13 pm

Vicarious ptsd/trauma could have led him to 'snap'

Just another example why supervision AND personal therapy is so vital for people in such a helping profession

Self Harm

BDG123412 — Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:45 pm

Author: BDG123412

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:45 pm

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Science of impulse control

polymath — Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:36 pm

Author: polymath

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:36 pm

quote:
Originally posted by seta37
not to mention the obvious fact that matter and energy cannot logically be created from nothing.

I won't take too long to argue that point - but if you do a bit of research into QED and modern astronomy, you'll find that this statement is quite wrong. Most of the mass and energy in the universe doesn't "exist" in terms that we understand (dark matter and dark energy)

Furthermore - the origins of the universe have nothing to do with the fact that there are no humans in any fossils older than 4 million years. Try not to use the "locus shift" fallacy too much.

Oh stop it seta. Exist means exist, you sound like coberst. Either something, anything, is or it isn't. The idea that this universe just spontaniously combusted and evolved of its own accord is as much a statement of blind faith as any religion. It takes just as much ego to think that we have the mental capacity to understand the concept of a creator. That being would be as far above our understanding as we are to a goldfish.

As for humans being on a higher level, I don't hear any refuting arguments. Humans have a sense of right vs. wrong, not to mention the capacity to build things. If a gorilla has been around for so long, why hasn't it figured out how to build a simple lean-to shelter to keep the rain off, or rub a couple sticks together to start a fire?

If we were on par with animals, when I'm hungry in the public square and a fat teenager is alone with a juicy hamburger, I'd grab it and run rather than buy my own. I can outrun the kid, have no fear of the slap on the wrist I'd get if caught, and would rather spend my money on a movie. Animals steal and kill, they don't barter. Give me a break. Come out from behind your book learning and make a sensible argument using real-world examples

I don't deserve help, do I?

Sluagh — Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:09 pm

Author: Sluagh

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:09 pm

oh xeri... what a difficult place to be in...
I understand why you feel guilty, being a parent, especially when one has issues/demons of their own can be so so difficult... for the whole family.
you feel very guilty for your childrens suffering, and yes, I too believe, just like they do, and like you do, that their upbringing had alot to do with how they have turned out to be as adults .... BUT....it is never to late to make amends. to your children and to your self. You being emotionaly healthy will help your children much more than having a mother who is eaten up with guilt and dying inside. There can be no strength for your children if you yourself are sick.
Also, there are many people out there, who have had a very bad childhood and yes I blame the parents for how they turned out to be but.... it is up to the adultchild [now adult] to reach out for help and to want to heal.
It sounds like your children are still stuck in the role of the victim [which is not meant in a bad way -its just a fact] and they will not come out of that role until they want to, no one can make them.
If anything, you might still be part of a group dynamic [group being you and your children] where you have the role of the 'enabler' although i do hear that you have kicked out your daughter now because you have had enough of her behaviour. It might be usful to join Alanon and some kind of talk therapy. Alanon so you have some help with dealing with your childrens addictive behaviours and talk therapy so you can work on yourself and your own behaviour patterns.
You DO deserve help. You sound like you are very sorry for what you have or havent done for your children and that is the first step... to be sorry... and to mean it... now the work begins. And it will be so painful. It already is... I really do hope you will reach out and help yourself to become a healthy mother/woman. You are not a bad person

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nickypicky — Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:54 am

Author: nickypicky

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:54 am

Oh ps the artist is AKON......

Bye Mrs Magoo.....

xx.

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djmagic — Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:35 am

Author: djmagic

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:35 am

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djmagic — Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:35 am

Author: djmagic

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 11:35 am

love it ....quote "hi alex"

made me giggle..

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blimey — Sat Nov 07, 2009 10:59 am

Author: blimey

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 10:59 am

hey wlb
I've been following your time on here with zest..you have been a busy girl.. good for you!! dont worry about last night.. think you learnt a lot about putting yourself in that position again! just consider that strike 1 from blimey lol
Im glad I made the right decision six weeks ago and found this forum a short while after otherwise I dont think I would have been able to stay off the stuff and never in my wildest dreams did I think I would find so much honesty and compassion from a bunch of addicts in an online forum!!
maybe quitting the cigs 2 weeks ago wasnt the right choice in the sense of mixing nicotine and cannabis withdrawal together but as I felt in such a strong frame of mind that I thought I would kill 2 birds with 1 stone

I'm over in NZ at the mo..I'm from your part of the country and I really miss it.It's been almost a year on the other side of the world and I'm really getting fed up with it over here.. the country itself is beautiful but the rest of it isnt a patch on good old sussex by the sea and boy do I miss the beeb..telly here is just awful..no sorry, a long way past awful
Part of the reason for me giving up weed is so that I can return to Brighton uni and get my degree that I sooo need..I'm hoping to get in on next septembers intake so hopefully my noggin should be in some kind of a decent state to accept degree level maths and electronics again.. its just something that I really need to do.. failed on the first (stoned) attempt a few years ago and have been kicking meself ever since, just need to get everything sorted over here.. got wifey to convince that its the right thing to do but shes not that happy.. we moved over here so she could be closer to her mum who emigrated here years ago but if she cant see the potential that a more than determined ex-puffhead can do then I suppose that is going to be her loss...there just isnt enough reasons in NZ to keep me here and I really do hope she sees sense and returns with me but only time will tell on that one!!

Have you thought about doing a home based course? you never know how many doors can open if you take your education further!!
peace

Overly confused...

Cooler — Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:54 am

Author: Cooler

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:54 am

quote:
Originally posted by UnholyAdvent
I am very confused by just about everything i think. i know im depressed, i have social anxiety, i have anger problems, and probably any other condition out there because i simply just dont know.. I analyze everything so much and so critically there just isnt an end, answer, or completion to anything..

I cant focus on something that allows me to think for too long because there will be something wrong with it, then i got have to figure why its wrong, then i have to figure out how to fix it, then i have to figure out if its the best way and i have to continue until i finally find an answer that can satisfy me. once i have that answer i have to analyze how to actually apply it, the tools/materials i need, how long it will take, is it worth it to do this, and why do i want to do this.

the only things that i really know for sure are my feelings about some thing, and my feelings are bizarre and not really normal (well i think their normal i dont know, i havnt really seen too much or heard if its normal or not)

i want to say more but i cant say anything else because i dont know if this was too much, or if it was written right, if it was appropriate, will it help, will my boyfriends get upset, and what should be said.

Unholy,

It is very common for us to get into an overanalyzing situation when are feeling down. Feelings are what really matters, and they are usually quite obvious to us.

Could you say a little more about how you feel right now?

Alex.

Analyzing everyones responses

Cooler — Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:32 am

Author: Cooler

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:32 am

quote:
Originally posted by wylo
Hi, in the past few months Ive come a long way regarding self esteem and confidence. Im starting to take things for granted now that would have been a personal hassle in the past. This is through meditation and affirmations.
However I cant shake off the way I analyze peoples attitudes towards me. Now I have to say its not as bad as it used to be but it still bothers me alot.
If I am in work and someone is being real nice to me im thinking "hey i really am getting more confident and happy now", but then theres the negative side to this too. If for example I ask a coworker a question and he bluntly answers me without elaborating I cant shake off the idea that "things arent going great for me today".
I just want to get rid of that altogether and stop caring one bit what other peoples attitudes are towards me. (Obviously not for exceptional cases like someone being a complete dick to me,just for 'mild' cases)
Anyone else experience this?
Should I just keep going with the meditation etc, perhaps try and lengthen it, at the moment, im doing approx 20 mins to a half an hour a night.
Thanks

Wylo,

I once worked in a new job in an office. One evening, after folks had gone home, my boss came over to me and said "I have to tell you that you are not liked here." He then said "There is no complaint with your work, but no one likes you here, not even A, who is usually friendly with everyone."

Well, once you've had a deal like this there is not much point in mind reading, it's plain enough. I stuck the job for a while, and then left for a better paid job.

What I learned from that experience is that sometimes you will have a nasty enemy, and we just have to suck it up. If we can handle that, then there is no 'worst thing' that can happen. A few years later I was working somewhere else, and a colleague said "Everyone likes you here."

But I'm the same person! LOL

As you already know, we can't wear our hearts on our sleeves. We need a hard core which cant be broken. We can enjoy the good stuff, and when bad stuff really does come we recognise it and harden up. It's not easy to learn this, but it is the way to survive.

I would say, look at people for what they are, it's interesting, but don't let them jerk us about inside. We just can't live a peaceful inner life if it is reliant on being liked or disliked by everyone who comes our way, there is no way that this thinking can work for us. Of course genuine love and affection is a different matter, and something we all need and hope for, but that is a deeper story.

Also, if a person really doesn't like us (my old boss for instance) remember that this upsets them too. That's a comfort.

Alex.

Citalopram withdrawal

playbabee — Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:27 am

Author: playbabee

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:27 am

can somebody please tell me wat u think i should do, i am a mother of 2 and i have been on the deaded "c" for nearly 3years was on 70mgs which i have just read and it looks as though that is an exteme amount, i have been missing pills here and there for a couple of months until 12 days ago i had decided i had had enough so evedently i just stopped taking them well holy crap i feel like i have been hit by a bus, my head is spinning, my body is shaking like the shivers, headaches, shock like feelings thru out my body i feel like some body is using my head as a basket ball, im so dazed and out og this world, my partner talks to me and i stare at him like ive seen a ghost, my moods are crazy, the heart palpitations are back and i actually think the big fella upstairs thinks its my time, i cant go on any more like this it is sending me insane like i should go back on the bloody things!!! aaarrrrgggghhhh HELP

Aimee

In your face

cdstack — Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:26 am

Author: cdstack

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:26 am

In the uk 18 is not a minor you can get pissed at that age and many do.

Citalopram & Alcohol

darren2817 — Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:24 am

Author: darren2817

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:24 am

Hi there. I have been on Citalopram for nearly 4 weeks now and I went out for a few drinks with some work colleagues during the week (which turned into a bit of a bender I must admit!) and i ended up apparently just walking out of a restaurant that we were in and going home which i cant remember doing or the journey home which really scared me as i live in Oxford and was drinking in London!! I still cant remember how I got home (but it must have been by train as thats how i got in) and I was being violently sick most of that night and have had periods of increased worry and depression since. It happened 3 days ago and I still dont feel 100% so I will never drink like that again whilst on the tablets! I think that if you drink in moderation and know your limits you should be ok. I have another work do in London next week which is an annual thing fuelled by alcohol so I am going to take it easy and report back next week to see if my theory works!!

Ever feel like a snake in the grass?

suburbanite — Sat Nov 07, 2009 8:52 am

Author: suburbanite

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 8:52 am

So, I of course have an issue I'd like an opinion on otherwise this is simply a meaningless rant. This is my freshman year of college and already I feel like I created and destroyed so many relationships. After months of awkwardness and feeling a bit 'odd-man-out' with my so-called friends, everything came to a head tonight.
While walking with two of my guy pals, guy #1, we'll call him Jeff had a row with me. Jeff and guy #2, Zach, had just come from a party and were mildly intoxicated. Jeff was pushing me about, nothing too terrible, just enough to really bug me and hurt a bit, so I threatened to hit him if he persisted. He did, and so I jokingly swung at him, actually landing a blow, and he tripped onto the street. Zach and I had a good laugh, but Jeff was offended, getting into my face and finally yelling:
"No one wants you here. Go, leave, now. You're such a prick, you think you're better than everyone with your big words and Zach only wants you for your pussy." Sadly, Zach and Jeff had a fight, with Zach defending me to the point of violence while I apologized, and walked away to cry on a bench for an hour. What a night.
Needless to say, this really bothered me, because I have felt increasing alienation from my friends. I can't even say this is an unwarranted response. I've been taking interest in the guys of our little group, dating Seth for two weeks before I decided it wasn't right, then taking an interest in Bryce even though he has a girlfriend, and finally Zach and I have been hanging around every weekend. I feel like I've been so destructive dating/playing around with 6 different boys over the summer, and a similar situation here at school.
It's not really that I get bored with them, I just want all of them, I like all of them, but that is not socially acceptable, and would offend several of their moral codes. My relationship with Bryce is still going on, and I really fancy him AND Zach, which is an issue. I know other girls who liked Seth and Zach, and Bryce has told me he's leaving his girlfriend for me. I really do like all of the other boys, but I didn't really care for the feelings of other girls who wanted them. I went after someone when I wanted him, and so now I feel like a lowly snake, no use to anyone, just slipping after the next meal. I'm not a mean person, in fact I care deeply about what others think, but I really have no idea how to handle this situation. it feels like everything I touch..dies, to be very depressive. I'm quite upset, and at a loss. Any help would be appreciated (slightly criticism sensitive I might add though -_-)

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desperate788 — Sat Nov 07, 2009 8:44 am

Author: desperate788

Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 8:44 am

I'm going to work, after work ı'll go to shopping center..See you tonight:)) Have a wonderful day:))
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