The Eyes

Wiganlad2010 — Thu Mar 11, 2010 6:00 pm

Author: Wiganlad2010

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 6:00 pm

Pupils can change depending on light as well as mood/feelings, so it is hard to judge on this. I am also unsure if there is a change in dialation when lying... I just look for unusual body language to them and where they are looking and which way there body is facing.

help, trying to stop smoking weed!

element. — Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:58 pm

Author: element.

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:58 pm

I have to agree with Darby on this. Keep your mind occupied with things that you enjoy doing and don't make you think of it too much.

Also some books state that meditation trains the mind, keeping it sharp will help you remain focused and help you quit.

diaries of a guy who lives hard days

desperate788 — Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:30 pm

Author: desperate788

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:30 pm

hello:) Today my work partner was abusive, another hard day. I saw a friend from other building he says he doesn't like this job anymore because of partners. It's not only me, nearly everyone wants to get rid of this job. Tonight ı'm willing to exercise very much. My thinking problem improves, ı would like to ask, if ı'am to take just one supplement to accelerate this what would it be? Theanine? I take piracetam already, it's not included to this question. Meditation after this cup of green tea, Wish us a great night.

Progress, At Last

nispelsm — Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:27 pm

Author: nispelsm

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:27 pm

OK, I'm in a bit of a pickle here...

I think I accidentally triggered a defense mechanism, and I keep getting images of things attacking me whenever I listen to a hypnosis audio, other than ones recorded personally by me, or when in session with my hypnotherapist. Despite the audios being positive in nature, something in the back of my mind is convinced I'm under attack, and is lashing out against them.

At first, it was just random predatory animals that would appear and threaten me, stopping just short of attacking, but it was clear there was some kind of warning. However, the past two days, they no longer just stand in my way and threaten. Last night, I had to fend off a shark attack (it was a guided meditation on a tropical island). After fending it off several times, it finally made a mad dash straight at me, lunging out of water as I retreated to the beach. I awoke immediately.

After much internal dialog, the best I've come up with, is a sense that what I'm doing (trying for deep hypnosis phenomena) is dangerous. More specifically, that I'm trying to open a door that can not be closed again, if that makes any sense. Some part of me is convinced that once I completely "let go" with a hypnotist, even one I trust, I will lose the ability to pick and choose who has that level of influence over me.

It's wierd, that part of believe believes that if I open myself up to one person, I open myself up to everyone. That, I am making myself vulnerable to other people that I normally would never give that kind of trust. All this, *despite* the suggestions I specifically give myself to remind me that I am only open to those I've chosen, and only when I intend to be hypnotized.

Ironic, isn't it? I'm having difficulty being fully hypnotized, because some part of me is convinced I am becoming too suggestible.

Be positive about your panic attacks

satanstoystore — Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:16 pm

Author: satanstoystore

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:16 pm

holy cow. "If you follow the attack with feelings of fear and depression, it reinforces the fearful behavior"

I think this is the first time I've noticed anyone actually analyzing their emotional states around anxiety and actually trying to change them. look at my post count. that's amazing. seriously. have you ever tried figuring out what the feelings were right before? have you ever tried mixing those feelings instead?

Stepdaughters anger

satanstoystore — Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:06 pm

Author: satanstoystore

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:06 pm

I wonder if they see you as managing his life.

Can someone try and figure me out?

Ruby88 — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:57 pm

Author: Ruby88

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:57 pm

It's interesting how many people pop in here with the same sort of worries at 20 years old. I wonder if it's just that when you hit that nice round number and you're not a teenager any more, you feel like you should have it all sorted and be all content. In my experience it was exactly the opposite - that sort of age for me was the most turbulent and difficult - even worse than my teens. I slunk into a horrible downer and everything just seemed overwhelming and wrong.

I don't think I really started to "settle in myself" until I was 25 or 30.

I agree with everyone so far (except possibly shroom-man on the psychedelics but each to their own!) - you might be expecting to be happy just because of what you do, but it's also about how you approach life and situations. We're all over-thinkers on here so probably pre-disposed to dissatisfaction, but with time you might be able to convince yourself to look on the bright side.

Achievements aren't happiness - like you say, it's all about impressing people.

Give it time, and meanwhile try to nudge yourself towards a more positive way of thinking. Eventually it becomes habit.

Attention seeking friend

JRGiger — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:56 pm

Author: JRGiger

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:56 pm

I have a friend whos been seeking attention from me and her other various friends. She seems to be feigning symptoms from schizophrenia (such as hallucinations, hearing voices.) and what may be alien hand syndrome (not bieng able to control her hand, though at this time she says it's only not bieng able to move it occasionly) She says that there are voices that tell her to kill herself and that they can casue uneareable pain when she doesn't obey them, they manifest as several voices whisper simultainiously. (she described it as similar to when people talk in parcel tounge in harry potter) She also said that the voices are capable of controlling her to a mild extent, but that it's growing aswell. I know she hasn't had anything near a stable relationship with her mother, so it seems most likely that lack of attention from her mother is causing this. I'm going along with it for now, but I want to know if it is possible to actually cure this behaviour alltogether.

Extreme Mood Swings + Self-conscious + career crisis + mba

AnAgrAm — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:48 pm

Author: AnAgrAm

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:48 pm

Hi Kat,

Thanks for the reply, it really helped me to atleast try to fight my fears.

cheers & hugs,
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Mini Survey (what's your "type"?)

Ruby88 — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:45 pm

Author: Ruby88

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:45 pm

[quote="djockhere"]

Geez, that was my 1st post in this forum & I don't seem to have started it in a nice way. Triarius, I beg your pardon sir [/quote]

Ah but you've been sucked in now. You and everyone else will have forgotten all about this thread in a week or so (and after your 1000th post lol)

So are you from somewhere in America where "sir" is used outside of costume dramas? Like you have to say it to your girlfriend's dad, or possibly even your own? It sounds so strange to me!

What is the subject experiencing?

Ellenore — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:45 pm

Author: Ellenore

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:45 pm

Anthony- This makes a lot of sense to me. I know when I'm doing the invisibility trick, I've often noticed subjects looking just beside me as if consciously trying not to look at me. Another aspect of this is they'll have an intense visual focus on an object I'm moving- almost like they were consciously trying to obscure their vision of me. I've always thought that this trick involved more of a back-end justification than an actual negative hallucination- the subject tries not to see you while at the same time being unaware that they're trying not to see you. I think if I did the invisibility trick and then tried to punch someone in the face, they/their "hidden observer" would suddenly be VERY able to percieve me and move out of the way (or at least flinch).

Panic attacks and fear of going outside/buses.

satanstoystore — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:43 pm

Author: satanstoystore

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:43 pm

quote:
Originally posted by fti1981
...Everything about the bus makes me nervous.
I try avoiding buses as much as i possibly can. I also dont want to go outside most of the time.
Could this be related to the p.a. or a phobia?

no. It's anxiety. The part of the mind that controls the bodies emotions eavesdrops on your thoughts to give you an "appropriate" response. Since most people are nervous about things that can inflict physical or psychological damage, I assume you're imagining some sort of harm. These thoughts are often suppressed, but still there. Since they're there the body has to give you some sort of response to enable you to deal with it effectively. thus a fight or flight response. if you're interested in diagrams and pictures of the limbic system etc I can google some links for you. interesting and useless information for actually getting rid of PA's and anxiety.

I've had panic attacks before but I don't particularly like them so usually I bite the bullet and figure out what is going on to resolve* them before they attach to anything like buses or "everything but home" (agoraphobia).

* I learned a couple techniques.

My son is a cannabis addict and I need help

satanstoystore — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:19 pm

Author: satanstoystore

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:19 pm

cannabis is not physically addictive. It is emotionally addictive. The results of cessation feel very similar though. So, what's the difference? a physically addicting drug tends to take over a role in the body. For instance crack neurochemically changes how the body regulates pain and pleasure. Without crack for an addict it's harder to get pleasure and harder to get rid of pain. An alcoholics body uses the sugar that the alcohol provides. When you remove alcohol it can have very dire results if not managed properly b/c glucose levels are critical to the body. cannabis doesn't have those kinds of chemical changes in the body.

It doesn't matter whether it's stronger now or back in the day. Users narrow/widen their scope of use based on their needs. Other drugs, like crack, aren't like that. The reason why it was used to begin with was to regulate emotions. No matter how strong/weak it is, he's used enough to match his needs. Now that the cannabis is gone he has to regulate his emotions on his own. If he started at 13 you might as well consider him 13 years old. His emotional growth pretty much stopped then. And since he's started at 13 and it stuck pretty well, he probably avoided dealing with a lot of emotions that have been trailing after him. Which would make his emotional age younger as well. I wouldn't be surprised if whatever he's adapted to manage the loss of his father is ineffective and is being reused, causing problems. We recycle the way we deal with emotions over and over until it doesn't work. Ten years of practice of something developed at the age of 3ish, then covered up with pot, might not really be that great.

It sounds like he's toughing it out, waiting until the symptoms pass. I would support him emotionally. Make sure he's hydrated. If you can take him to an acupuncturist he or she can help with the urges and the head aches. If you can schedule a massage afterwards that would help a lot too. Chances are activating those different areas of the body will bring up a lot of emotional stuff that hasn't been dealt with. So he might feel great, like really spectacular compared to the last 7 days, after his appointment- and he might dump on you emotionally as well. But this is something he's probably been avoided and covering up with cannabis. So as long as he isn't smoking I'd consider it progress. btw my bro started out smoking in his teens for nearly the remainder of his adult life. It wasn't until he learned to manage (or work with) his emotions that he actually succeeded at kicking his weed habit. that's something I've noticed with all pot users. It's such a subtle difference with them they just consider themselves a different person, they don't give that kind of change enough credit.

Short question to diet guy (jurplesman)

super470 — Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:01 pm

Author: super470

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 4:01 pm

There is no question that eating well can make you feel good, or at least better. There are many mood boosting foods out there (mainly fruit and vegetables)
But for someone to state that depression is caused by poor diet, is insane. Jurplesman has even recommended this diet to people on the eating disorders forums, if you can believe that!?
Eating well and excersise will definitely help, but as far as people who are suffering from major depression, it is a combination of anti-depressants(to start) and therapy that will really offer relief. To suggest to people that simply changing their diet will cure them of depression is both ignorent and irresponsible!

lets just do it!

Motivated — Thu Mar 11, 2010 3:57 pm

Author: Motivated

Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 3:57 pm

I know it's been a while since you posted, but just in case you're checking in, I wanted to give you a few thoughts. You're NOT alone. Think of the word, "alone" -- ALL ONE. We all have much more in common than you think. I just read that "more people die each year from suicide than in all the world's armed conflicts." Please don't be part of the casualty!

I don't know you, but I do know that you have something unique to offer this world. You have a unique perspective, that adds to the truth we learn. Also, I believe in the strength of people to overcome even the worst problems...And the beautifully amazing thing to me is how people often come out more compassionate & wiser people for getting through their "hell." "If you're going through hell, keep going!" (-Churchill) It will get better!

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