my girlfriend has depression and i feel useless. she has had depression for the last year or so. I think it started because of her time at uni where she pushed/pressured herself a lot.
last night i went out with some friends and spoke to my g/f on the phone. she was feeling really down about having to drive a long distance for a course she had to attend the next day. she has started to panic while driving and having to pull over. she used to love to drive. i offered 2 drive her there but she said no. when i left the pub, i phoned back and she was really down. she was saying she wish some1 else knew how she felt, and i told her im trying (which i am, and have been for the last year+)... i cant remember the exact converstation (cus id had a few beers) but i ended up shouting at her because i felt useless after trying my best to support her. i shouted about when i felt really down last year when my grandparents died and i told her i know how it feels when u think the whole world is against you... but now i regret saying it as i know thats not the same as being depressed, but im trying my best and i dont know what to do. its really stressing me out and i think thats why i snapped a bit last night
after the phone call, she told me we obviously dont understand how each other feel so there is no point trying to.
this made me feel really bad and i got 2 hours sleep at the most last night, all i could think about is what id said. i wish i could take it back because i know it was stupid and i just want to support her the best i can to make her better.
if any1 could suggest things to do to help her feel a little better, could you please let me know... im running out of ideas