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willow
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Joined: 29 Aug 2004
Posts: 27
Location: West Midlands, UK
Sun Jan 16, 2005 11:36 am
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Hi brightlight,
Yes, I can so totally relate to this!!
When I wake up and the sun is shining and I am having a good day, I can get so much done. I could clean the house from top to bottom and still have bags of energy left.
BUT, on a bad depressed day I can sit and think about how much needs doing but not have the energy to tackle even one job. I then get more fed up cos the whole day has past and the house looks a total tip!
Definately down to how you are feeling so try not to beat yourself up about it all 
Willow x |
briary
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Joined: 07 Jul 2004
Posts: 10838
Location: East Sussex
Sun Jan 16, 2005 5:50 pm
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Hi Brightlight
I would say this is definitely a part of the depression.
I have gone downhill with my depression in the last couple of weeks and I currently feel unable to do anything around the house. Even getting dressed is an effort.
As others have said, don't beat yourself up about it. Just tackle what you feel you can manage and do a little bit at a time. Putting yourself under pressure to have the house looking spotless won't help.
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brightlight
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Joined: 07 Aug 2004
Posts: 75
Location: Córdoba, Spain
Mon Jan 17, 2005 10:50 am
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Thanks all of you for your support, I hope that I will one day get back together again. When my ex left I thought I would get back on track quickly but that is not the way things are happening.
I wonder if once the divorce is definately through and I know where I am going things will change. Orrrrr, is it the fact that I am up to 57 with no chance of a pension and never knowing from one day to the next if I will have students to teach!!!????
Why do I DO this to myself????
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brightlight
Junior Member
Joined: 07 Aug 2004
Posts: 75
Location: Córdoba, Spain
Mon Jan 17, 2005 10:50 am
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That was meant to be grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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starship
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Joined: 13 Oct 2003
Posts: 241
Mon Jan 17, 2005 12:03 pm
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Hello brightlight
As other people have suggested here, this is the time to pace yourself. Divorce is a bit like bereavement in some ways. It takes time to get used to a new single identity and way of life and, if it’s not finalised yet, you’re possibly feeling the stress of all that as well.
Once your divorce is though, what changes will you be free to enjoy? You could make a list of those new freedoms and keep them as a goal to work towards. They might be quite tiny, but enjoyable nevertheless. A friend of mine liked being able to read a fresh newspaper that nobody else had crumpled up first!
I know that working independently can be quite isolating and insecure. Can you get a few hours with a language school? Yes, the pay’ll be lousy and they won’t be totally reliable, but you’ll have some social contact and maybe a little more routine, which might be helpful at the moment.
A session with an independent financial adviser and your solicitor might give you some ideas re. how you’re going to pay the bills in the future.
Have you had a look at the Depression Learning Path? http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/depression.html It’ll explain why you’re feeling so tired much of the time. If you work through it, you’ll find that as you start to feel better, your energy will come back. Till then, file or ignore the domestic chores. Just give yourself a little TLC and treat yourself to a walk every day in the Spanish sunshine. By doing this you’ll get the endorphins flowing and feel better right away.
All the best
Sandra
p s You've still got your sense of humour |
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