I see new people arrive on this forum every few days. Today it seems like a handful of newcomers are requiring help. I could read their stories and try to dish out advice. . .
I am not going to say that I am getting jaded, but I am learning a thing or two from my time here. It seems as though it is much like any rehab program. Approximately 90% of people go back to using. I do feel that it is possible for everyone to free themselves from addiction, but there is no quick fix. It is the idea of a 'quick fix' that led us to become addicts in the first place.
My theory is that life takes work. There are many glorious and beautiful events that may seem to happen of their own accord, but to stay consistently happy takes work. No, that may not be what anyone wants to hear. I'm only speaking what is true for me.
When I was chronically smoking pot, I wasn't actually happy. I would be blissed for a few minutes (OK, maybe an hour or two) when high, but then I would crash. The feelings after coming down would range from anywhere between 'passive lethargy' to 'irritable and strung-out'. The worst had to be at the end of a weekend of heavy smoking, when I would have to get my sh*t together for Monday (laundry, groceries, lunches, etc.). I would be so burnt, that everything would take 5 times as long as it should have. I was basically a walking zombie every Sunday PM.
My Monday would be a fuzzy blur. Followed by the other weekdays until I would get to 'relax' by getting stoned all weekend. I repeated this pattern for so long that I was bored of it. At any given time in the cycle I had no lasting joy, no prolonged sense of peace.
I now actively pursue things that make me happy. When it is time to work, I work hard. I am clear-headed, focused, and I get things done. When there is breathing room to chill, I chill! Fully immersing myself in the moment, knowing that I have earned it, without any nagging obligations taking up space in my brain.
To stay fit (physically and mentally) I force myself to stick to my 3 times per week workouts. No, I'm not always in the mood, but I never regret going once I am finished! I also dedicate time each day for meditation and reading books of wisdom (some self-help, some eastern mysticism, some inspired poetry, . . . ). I have committed myself to attending drum circles at least once per week as well. Even these are a chore at times (going out after dinner after a hard day's work), but they always give me something. If I am really stressed, I go for a walk in nature. Yes, it takes some motivation, but the dividends are clear lungs and a peaceful stillness in my heart.
I am just hear to say that although not everyone is successful in quitting, YOU can be. It only requires that you make a sacred promise to yourself, then follow up by filling your days with things that bring you true tranquility and joy.
It takes work, but it IS worth it!