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strukela
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Joined: 08 May 2010
Posts: 3
Sat May 08, 2010 4:59 am
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Genivieve,
I was just reading your post again and please do not feel defeated. You can absolutely make headway on your fear of public speaking, it's not too late. You sound like a very talented person and letting those talents show through verbal communication as well would help make this world a better place.
Be kind to yourself. Beating your self up will not help. Try and accept yourself as you are right now. Take action of some type, it could be small steps, such as speaking in front of 1 or 2 people, joining Toastmasters, etc. From each small step in combination with a loving state of mind, you may find the fear diminishing.
I hope these suggestions may be of help. I wish you all the best. |
dan101
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Joined: 08 May 2010
Posts: 6
Sat May 15, 2010 7:29 pm
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Hi everyone
I am relatively new here.
Public speaking affects a lot of people. Presentations are one of the things people are worried about.
I can relate to this. One time in college I had to deliver a presentation in front of a whole class. I was terrified. I didn’t want to go up. But when my name was called it was my turn. I was so nervous. I tried to forget about it but couldn’t.
I could feel as though everyone was laughing at me, even though they weren’t. The spotlight attention was uncomfortable. I don’t like speaking in public like a lot of you other people here.
I am searching for some kind of solution to this problem and when I come across one I will let everyone know so that everyone can benefit.
Dan
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rydiliz1
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Joined: 21 May 2010
Posts: 1
Fri May 21, 2010 3:48 am
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Hi Everyone - Domino --- did Toastmasters help you? I have joined but have too much fear to even give my first speech. I have tried the various meds...they don't help. Thanks. |
Positive mind
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Joined: 01 Jun 2010
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Tue Jun 01, 2010 12:52 pm
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I used to be terrified of public speaking, but now although there is still plenty of room for improvement, I can say I am a lot more comfortable with it. Two things helped me a lot.
1) Running through the presentation in my mind and seeing the event as successful and seeing myself as feeling good about it
2) making sure I know my material and am well prepared.
Simple, but for me, effective.
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dan101
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Joined: 08 May 2010
Posts: 6
Thu Jun 03, 2010 1:20 pm
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Hi rydiliz1
I hope ur well.
Try practicing visualization techniques. Practice your speech by imagining yourself confident and giving the speech flawlessly. Be and act positive and see the audience loving your presentation. This can really help. Imagining yourself successful and confident will make you that person.
Don’t worry about making mistakes - even pros do it. Just move on naturally and nobody will even notice. Remember, people want you to succeed not fail.
I hope this helps.
Dan
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Originally posted by rydiliz1
Hi Everyone - Domino --- did Toastmasters help you? I have joined but have too much fear to even give my first speech. I have tried the various meds...they don't help. Thanks.
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CardGuy777
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Joined: 11 Jun 2010
Posts: 6
Fri Jun 11, 2010 9:45 am
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| Re: I am deathly afraid of public speaking....Please help |
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Originally posted by Ykaty369
I have a serious fear of public speaking and don't know how I have made it thus far. I don't remember when it all started but I do recall starting to have problems starting my junior or senior year in high school. I had your typical nerves back then but nothing I wasn't able to get over. I remember doing a presentation in my English class when I was a senior in high school and I was more nervous then I had ever been. I was having a mock trial defending a supposed murderer and I had a smile on my face throughout the whole presentation. I remember someone asking me why I was smiling and laughing throughout the presentation and I believe I made some excuse.
My fear then escalated even more in college. I wouldn't join a class if I knew a presentation was involved. But then it happened. I had to read something in class and I got choked up. It was absolutely embarrassing. It was like I was crying throughout the rest of my presentation. There were no tears but it sounded like I was crying. I have not been able to get over it since and have avoided such situations. I was forced into some group presentations after that, but I only contributed a word or two, leaving the rest of the talking to my partners.
I am now in my first semester at graduate school and have been offered a teaching position next semester starting in January. The class will consist of 30 to 40 students. This is the opportunity of a lifetime and I know I can't turn it down. I would be stupid to say NO!! If I am good at this then my department will probably offer me a Teaching Assistantship for the following year and I won't have to pay for school.
How do I get over this deathly fear so that I can accomplish this? I NEED HELP!!! I have contemplated taking a shot of liquor before walking into the classroom in order to control my nerves, but clearly that is not a solution.
My voice gets real shaky and my hands shake terribly. Can someone offer some serious advice to me? I believe that this is a real fear, like other people have fears of height and spiders. Is there any help for me????
With public speaking you have to do it until you are comfortable with it. Yes its very tough but its the quickest and best way. In my opinion the reason it seemed to escalate as you got older is because you hadn't done it in so long and your experiences up til then werent very good from what Ive gathered. So you wanted to avoid the humiliation. If you had done more public speaking it wouldnt have been so bad because you would be used to it. Its like when you were in kindergarten and someone called you a doodyhead, yeah it was the end of the world then, but you built up a tolerance to things like name calling. Now if someone called you a doodyhead it would most likely make you laugh. Same deal, its all about building a tolerance. So get up and talk in front of people like family or friends. Or you can go to an AA meeting and say your an alcoholic, thatll help you think on your feet as you make up how you hit rock bottom. Or you can also join these clubs, I think theyre called the Toastmasters. They make toasts, so its great public speaking experience. Just remember, you can do anything if you want to do it bad enough so force yourself to do it. |
stop blushing
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Joined: 11 Jun 2010
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Fri Jun 11, 2010 10:57 pm
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For me, I always try to control my breathing before I do a presntation. Also, if I can put an ice breaker somewhere in the beginning of my presentation, it makes me less nervous. |
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