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CalvinRomney
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Joined: 10 Jan 2012
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Post Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:01 am

Does appearance matter a lot?    Reply with quote  

Hi everybody, Something is haunting in my mind for a long time that am i looking good? 3 years ago, When i was in my college, i had lots of female friends, they come and talk to me, spent some time with me. i thought i was so appealing on that time. But now, people are giving a glimpse at me.

I was under medication for a while, that made me a bit obese. However i lost my weight considerably. But i didnt find any attraction in me.

This is not a matter of appearance, it made me to have a poor self esteem, as if a student who was a topper throughout the year and keep on failing nowadays.

If i go there and had a conversation, they are not so interested in talking with me. If i could come out of this problem, i can concentrate more on my work and do wonders. because that kind of person i am.

I dont know whether, i have delivered what is in my mind, i am in confusion. please help me out..
  
Daniel_
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Joined: 08 Jan 2012
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Post Tue Jan 10, 2012 6:00 pm

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Hi Calvin !

Let;s do this hard way, but more effective way Smile

I would like to know what You think about it. Are You looking good ?
CindySoul
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Post Tue Jan 10, 2012 8:21 pm

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Hi,

Its a matter of personal choice, to some appearance matters a lot and to some it doesn't. I think you should focus on building your own personality and not focus on your looks. Eventually you will get what you want.
CalvinRomney
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Post Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:36 pm

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Hi Calvin !

Let;s do this hard way, but more effective way

I would like to know what You think about it. Are You looking good ?

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Yes Daniel, Am looking good to myself.. But i feel that people are ignoring me.
Daniel_
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Post Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:50 pm

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Ok and why do you feel that people ignore you ?

Do you feel like that always when you are in a social situation ?
MSCP
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Joined: 05 Jan 2012
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Post Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:10 am

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Good looking people actually have lower self esteem because they worry about it more.
CalvinRomney
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Post Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:09 am

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Ok and why do you feel that people ignore you ?

Do you feel like that always when you are in a social situation ?

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Yes, nowadays.. previously i was always surrounded by people.. I knew they would like to spend time with me... But nowadays, a single hi!! thats it...
Why this transformation??
Daniel_
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Post Wed Jan 11, 2012 11:07 am

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I have a suspicion that You feel down even before You meet somebody and people are good at feeling each other's energy. So is it true, that You feel lack of confidence when around people or that You start thinking like I know how this is going to be... etc ?
Lighty
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Post Wed Jan 11, 2012 2:20 pm

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i think that appearance does the 20% of the job and the personality does the 80%.
so u have to be confident about ur self and express ur personality
CalvinRomney
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Post Wed Jan 11, 2012 11:33 pm

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I have a suspicion that You feel down even before You meet somebody and people are good at feeling each other's energy. So is it true, that You feel lack of confidence when around people or that You start thinking like I know how this is going to be... etc ?
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Not exactly.... however, i could find the difference in treating me and other guys.. saying bye to me is for name sake.. but to others it being enthusiastic....

I dont know where i am lacking in...
Daniel_
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Post Thu Jan 12, 2012 12:56 pm

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This change of behavior of others towards You started when You started when ?
And please tell me more about how You "lost" your confidence.

Thank You in advance Smile
CalvinRomney
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Post Sat Jan 14, 2012 12:10 am

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Hey danial! r u making fun out of me??????????????????
Daniel_
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Post Sat Jan 14, 2012 12:12 am

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I am sorry that I made You feel like that but no, I am not trying to make fun of You. Please, what made you think so ? If you are not comfortable talking about it, then please ignore my post.

Daniel
CalvinRomney
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Post Sun Jan 15, 2012 4:49 am

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I don't know dude! I feel that way... Give me solution!!
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Post Sun Jan 15, 2012 4:37 pm

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Funny thread Very Happy
  

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