Connect with Uncommon Knowledge
|
|
|
Public Speaking Resources
|
|
|
|
|
daya
New Member
Joined: 25 May 2012
Posts: 1
Fri May 25, 2012 3:18 am
|
| red face |
 |
i have a fear to talking to people in general my face gets super red like bloody red its so annoying it randomely comes im in class and out of know where my face gets bright red im talking to my friends and i get bright red and they jus stare at me i hav a fear of talking to boys cus i get really red and i start shaking i cant even go to a restraunt and order my foosd cause i get bright red any help? |
Sandan209
New Member
Joined: 25 Apr 2008
Posts: 12
Wed May 30, 2012 2:18 pm
|
| Re: red face |
|
quote:
Originally posted by daya
i have a fear to talking to people in general my face gets super red like bloody red its so annoying it randomely comes im in class and out of know where my face gets bright red im talking to my friends and i get bright red and they jus stare at me i hav a fear of talking to boys cus i get really red and i start shaking i cant even go to a restraunt and order my foosd cause i get bright red any help?
The very same thing happens to me. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and compounding thing. I begin to think "great am I turning red" or "here I go" or "I'm probably going to turn red". All of which begin the process and then I get more embarrassed about it and turn even redder. There are many ways to overcome blushing, but the first thing you need to tell yourself is it won't turn around overnight. It's an anxiety issue and a mental habit. There are many things to do to make it stop but you need to first just accept it as it happens because it's not as big a deal as you think it is. Some effective methods are neuro linguistic programming, toastmasters, panic away, etc. All of which will help increase your confidence and embrace the fact that you are currently dealing with this issue.
Hang in there and make a meaningful, sustained effort toward reversing it and you'll succeed. I have come a long way with my issue. |
MattCoast
New Member
Joined: 31 May 2012
Posts: 17
Thu May 31, 2012 12:17 pm
|
Are there any situations when you can talk to family, friends, other people where you don't get bright red? |
Sandan209
New Member
Joined: 25 Apr 2008
Posts: 12
Fri Jun 01, 2012 3:19 pm
|
quote:
Originally posted by MattCoast
Are there any situations when you can talk to family, friends, other people where you don't get bright red?
It depends on the day and my state of mind. If I am in a non-anxious, confident state, I do not blush under any circumstances. If not, just someone looking at me will cause me to blush severely. It all boils down to the battle with one's self-confidence at that moment and how willing and able they are to let the tension go and embrace the issue. |
Reid
Junior Member
Joined: 27 Dec 2011
Posts: 42
Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:32 pm
|
|
|
As Sandan209 mentioned, red face and other "stagefright symptoms" are very similar to a panic attack, where when you try to suppress them they just get worse. This is because those symptoms originate from fear, and when you notice them and try to stop them, that additional fear just causes them to amplify.
As someone who avoided going to college for several years because of my severe public speaking fears, I can definitely relate. Multiple factors eventually helped me overcome this, including:
1) Learning to accept/embrace the stagefright symptoms like blushing and shaking when they arose, rather than trying to suppress them
2) Improving my self-esteem (self acceptance) to a level where other people's potential judgment of me didn't matter so much
3) Realizing that if someone was judging/criticizing me, it was really they that had a problem worth judgment, not me.
Having been through this, I now have tremendous respect when I see someone experiencing fear/anxiety symptoms while speaking,but "doing it anyway". Try to remember that there just might be a few people like that in your audience, silently cheering you on. But again, total acceptable of your self and symptoms will likely do the most for getting you beyond the currently debilitating effects of blushing.
Reid
Author of MC2Method.com and SelfTherapy.org |
MrPositive
New Member
Joined: 06 Jun 2012
Posts: 2
Wed Jun 06, 2012 9:31 am
|
MAY I ADD THAT I HAVE REFERRED MANY A CLIENT TO TOASTMASTERS
INTERNATIONAL IN DIFFERENT PARTS OF THE WORLD - ITS A GREAT WAY OF
OVERCOMMING JITTERS AND NERVES. THE GROUP
WILL NOT FORCE YOU TO SPEAK UNTIL YOU ARE READY-GIVE IT A GO !!!
Mrpositive |
Hovehypnotherapist
Junior Member
Joined: 11 Jun 2012
Posts: 52
Location: Brighton UK
Wed Jun 13, 2012 2:14 pm
|
One simple but very effective tip is to actually point your redness out to people and if possible even make a joke of it. This may sound crazy but in fact by doing this you are immediately bringing it out in the open and normalising it. Everyone suffers from blushing at some point and even if yours is really severe as soon as you do this the other person has no option but to listen to you point it out. Once you start to feel more comfortable even encourage yourselves both to laugh at the absurdness of it!
My suggestion would be to anticipate when this might happen and mention it to the other person or group of people before it happens i.e 'oh just to say my face will probably look a little like a tomato soon as i do blush really easily' and then mention it again as it has happens. I promise you once you start doing this it will cease to become such a big issue. |
NamelessOne
New Member
Joined: 04 Aug 2012
Posts: 3
Sat Aug 04, 2012 10:56 am
|
I dont have a fear of public speaking but i do go red for some reason. Ive always had the problem. I can relate to how embarrassing it can be. |
|
Powered by phpBB © 2001, 2005 phpBB Group
|
| | | | | | | |
