363jay wrote:I probably should have stated earlier that we are teenagers. Moving closer to each other isn't really an option.
That helps clear things up a bit.
So basically, you are a mature teenager with a decent grasp of things that simply lacks life experience. Not much we can do about life experience as that comes with time.
You want to make something work based on what you currently, at an emotional level, believe to be love. My question is why?
What I suggest you start doing is questioning your emotions. Concentrate less on this other person and really begin to reflect on your own emotions. Don't assume "love" based on gut feelings. Instead, ask yourself why as a teenager you decided to pursue a 3 year LDR?
It is psychologically normal to take the easier, more comfortable path. It is common to make the excuse that we don't "choose the one we love", that it just happens, but that is cognitive bias to avoid an uncomfortable confrontation with ourselves. If we open ourselves to scrutiny, we find we do choose based on some underlying thought process. We fear not meeting someone else or we have self-confidence or esteem issues. The person isn't right for us, but it is easier than admitting that we just don't have the confidence to face rejection from someone new, etc. There are a ton of ways to rationalize and claim "love" when truly it is simply settling to avoid fear, rejection, anxiety, etc.
As a teenager, a 3 year LDR screams that you are avoiding something and need to focus all of your energy reflecting on your own underlying issues rather than trying to figure out what is wrong with some other person.