GET UP, DUST YOURSELF AND MOVE ON !

Postby rahulkapoor » Mon Sep 26, 2016 12:00 pm

Human beings are designed to make mistakes, irrespective of age, qualifications and past achievements we are all prone to go wrong. However, it is so fascinating to learn how people respond after making mistakes.

A mistake loses it’s hold as soon as feelings of failure, resentment, anger or embarrassment are released. Some people get offended when they are told ‘you have made a mistake’ they get defensive or argumentative; some cover up mistakes in order to avoid responsibility; some act in denial of making the mistake; some blame others and give themselves a clean chit.

Each of the responses have their own ill effects like – the feeling of failing destroys your confidence; anger makes you bitter and hurt more people; embarrassment takes away the courage needed to face people; covering up mistakes take the pressure off for a while but takes away your sleep; blaming others may provide temporary relief, however, eventually the mistake will be traced back to you causing serious concerns. To top it all, these negative actions make you a powerless and ineffective human being.

The truth is that ‘mistakes’ provides a great platform for learning and therefore, I suggest that you examine the mistake by maintaining composure. Find out what went wrong and why? Take responsibility and admit your mistake; admit to others that you have gone wrong and apologize.

It is crucial that you understand that not accepting your mistakes, particularly those involving other people, could be bad for your reputation because it shows lack of character. People are more forgiving when one admits their mistake. So, be honest with yourself and evaluate the situation from all perspectives. If you feel you are at fault, then accept it and seek forgiveness.

Learn, also, to forgive yourself, there is no point in living life with guilt and remorse. Mistakes are not intentional, you never do things to hurt your loved ones and they understand that, which is why they forgive you. So, learn to let go and give yourself a chance to fix things in the future.

As long as you live in this world you will continue to make mistakes. It is however, important not to repeat the same mistakes; if you do then it is a sure indicator that you haven’t learnt anything.

In conclusion, remember these golden words by Hugh White and move on in life – ‘When you make a mistake, don’t look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your powers’.
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Postby mickey0212 » Thu Sep 29, 2016 5:47 pm

i look back all the time..

knowing where i've come from helps me feel where i want to go
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Sun Oct 02, 2016 11:58 am

There are no mistakes, just feedback and the opportunity to go again
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