Forget something done in the past...

Postby ecko007 » Fri Oct 21, 2016 5:39 pm

Hi,

I have been reading a bit about hypnosis last 2 days because I would like to know if hypnosis, or any other method exists, to help "forget", and not remember, or recall ever again, something that was done in the past. Specifically, I would like to know if a past story can be altered slightly to forget something and replace with a new story, or just blank parts out completely?

For example:

""Mr X went on a night out in town and was toxic walking home. On the way home there are sexual events that took place with another person that should not have, or would not have happened if Mr X was not drunk. The next day, Mr X cannot remember what happened but thinks that whatever he is thinking did actually happen.""

I would like to know if the events that took place could be "forgotten",replaced with a new memory, or the specific events be blanked out? I know memory cannot be erased from what I have read, but can something be done about the above example?

I would also like to mention this is not just a typical drunken regret example that we all have to live with, this is something damaging and I am not lying that suicidal thoughts have been made.

Thank you for reading, can you help please??
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Postby jimmyh » Fri Oct 21, 2016 8:08 pm

The next day, Mr X cannot remember what happened but thinks that whatever he is thinking did actually happen.""


Would I be right in guessing that you struggle to imagine Mr.X being hypnotized to no longer think whatever he's thinking actually happened? Hypnotized to no longer spend time worrying about what might have happened?

Would that somehow not be as good of a solution as forgetting that there's anything to remember or replacing the memory altogether?

Or is that something you could, in theory, be open to?
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Postby ecko007 » Fri Oct 21, 2016 8:33 pm

To be honest I'm not sure what you mean. Are you able to be more specific and descriptive or detailed please?

Also i should mention after reading my post again that no one was hurt or anything...just Mr X is mentally scarred and trying to forget that what happened didn't happen. It's more about shame, disgust, mentally scarred, life ruining, and difficult to be same person again.
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Postby jimmyh » Fri Oct 21, 2016 8:39 pm

If I read your first post correctly, it seemed like Mr.X already doesn't know exactly what happened but is troubled by thinking about what might have happened and then believing that these things *did* happen.

If that's the case, what do you think about changing it so that Mr.X knows that he doesn't know what happened and no longer believes that the things he's thinking actually represent what happened. What if we also changed it so that Mr.X just doesn't find it worth worrying about much, and therefore doesn't try to manufacture explanations in the fist place. Does that seem possible? If so, does that seem like it would help, or would it miss the point?
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Postby ecko007 » Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:31 pm

It did happen but Mr. X wants to forget it happened.

Either by fabricating a alternate version of the events or, as you said above, believing that it never happened so as to forget it and not impact Mr X life anymore.
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Postby jimmyh » Fri Oct 21, 2016 10:15 pm

Ah, okay. I misread. Never mind what I was saying then.

Do you think it's possible to have it not impact Mr.X's life in a negative way anymore if he doesn't forget it? Do you think that other solutions could exist, even in theory?
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Postby ecko007 » Fri Oct 21, 2016 10:37 pm

Going back to my first post, can it be blanked or changed to believe an alterntive set of events? Or make Mr X believe that it never happened?
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Postby ecko007 » Sat Oct 22, 2016 1:17 pm

Can someone please help me on this or direct me to a professional? My life is not the same anymore and I need professional help.
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Postby jimmyh » Sat Oct 22, 2016 6:42 pm

Well of course. But you'd have to answer the clarifying questions :)

I've worked with people on this type of issue before, and they both left the session happy that they got what they had come for. However, that doesn't mean they stayed happy, and this is a bit of a "be careful what you wish for" type thing. There's a reason I ask the questions I ask.
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Postby ecko007 » Sun Oct 23, 2016 3:47 pm

What are the things you need to know?
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Postby jargan » Sun Oct 23, 2016 9:03 pm

Well, suppose Mr X finds a hypnotist who does remove that part of the memory, and he does indeed forget that the event happened... but all the negative emotions are still there! The memory is gone, but its aftermath stayed around. That's not really what you'd call a good result, right? What I guess is much more important is to deal with the negative emotions (basically get rid of them), and maybe removing memories needs to be part of that, or maybe not...

To quote jimmyh:

Do you think it's possible to have it not impact Mr.X's life in a negative way anymore if he doesn't forget it? Do you think that other solutions could exist, even in theory?


In my words: do you figure there could be a way for Mr X to fully remember the thing he wanted to forget, and still be able to move on and put it behind him, together with all the negative emotions he might have gotten from it until now? Because if you do, that means that there are more potential solutions to Mr X's problem, and more solutions means it's easier to find one that you can make work. Make sense?
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Postby ecko007 » Sat Oct 29, 2016 7:40 pm

yes this makes sense but I will say the truth...

I am straight, but I had a gay experience whilst on holiday and while drunk I had sexual acts with a ladyboy.

I cannot get it out of my head and I want to forget that it happen. Or somehow to make myself believe that something else happen...like I got the taxi and went home. Either way, I do not care about the emotions side to it because this is far worse and ruining my life. I have already had suicidal thoughts and I am seeing a counselor first time next week. However, I would rather be hypnotized to forget or believe something else.

Please can someone tell me whether this is possible or not?? I have read articles by professional hypnotists saying they have had clients saying they want to forget a person, the hypnotist said they wouldn't do that because what if you see them again and they speak about things you don't remember anymore. But they speak as if it is possible to be done?? Is it true? Can this be done?

Please help..thank you
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Postby Roady » Sat Oct 29, 2016 7:57 pm

To be honest to you, no it's not possible to "wipe your memory".
All spiritual techniques are not "fixed". All hypnosis can be undone. Every curse can be made undone.

Even if you believe that that negative experience is gone, all emotions are still there, as said before.
You WILL get some big problems after years, because emotions are constantly seeking a way out. They HAVE to be expressed in stead of suppressed.

I have also good news. There is a much easier way to solve this issue.
EVERYTHING can be forgiven, and you can also forgive yourself for what you have done.
You should make a decision: Oke I was very dumb, but one deed don't make me gay (if that is your fear).
I am honest to my parents, friends, and go on with my life.

What makes you so afraid now? Why are you making this a big big issue?
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Postby ecko007 » Sat Oct 29, 2016 8:11 pm

thank you for your reply.

Its because I have to live with it for the rest of my life. There are some boundaries that I feel should not be crossed, its what makes me who I am. It's the reason I can face people, get on with my life and do what I do, because it is who I am. Now that I have done this, memories are painful, I changed my life and cannot face getting on with life knowing that I did this. I crossed my own boundaries and cannot forgive myself because I will always know I did this. There are only 2 types of people, male and female, and I believe there are somethings you just don't do...but know I have done it. It is this I want to forget, I want to forget I did it and everything that I did with the person.
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Postby Roady » Sat Oct 29, 2016 8:19 pm

Hmm,
well I really appreciate your honesty. And feel with you how painful the memory is for what you did when you was drunk.

Oke, memories are painful, but you HAVE to deal with it. You have to talk to someone to share this experience and to process it. I think you are afraid to loose your "face" when you share it right?

Why don't you talk about it with a trusted friend or uncle or pastor or counselor?
Seem to me the "easiest" way.
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