Valley wrote:accepting that i have low self esteem was a huge relieve for me and now i wonder if i can actually work on it or if i have to live with it.
The very first step solving a solution, is admitting that you have a problem.
Well, you already made that first step. Great!
It would give you HUGE relief to admit it to everybody.
How feather light would your walk be without carrying all those masks with you.
How relaxed will you become to show just who you are, not making an inch more beauty/strong/big then you really are.
Wow, people will love you and respect you because you show yourself, and you show some vulnerability.
That is what people wants to see.
Actually the term "low self esteem" is kind of bull sh#t.
Look at a tree. A wonderful creation, just growing out of the ground. Nobody knows what exactly happens in the tree, with all his branches and leaves and maybe some sort of flowering. Actually it's a complete miracle.
One person who is walking by things: What an ugly piece of wood do we have here. Let me chop it and fire it in my fireplace.
Another person thinks: Wooow look at this amazing colors. She starts taking pictures of it.
The third is walking by and see nothing because he is not interested in trees.
The fact is, the tree is just there. Point. It is. Totally apart from the different views people or birds or whatever have on it.
It's is a tree. That's a fact.
What about you?
You are not a tree, but a person with a brain.
In your life somebody must have learned you that you have a low value. You have believed what they told or showed you.
That is what you call "low self esteem". But the fact
is that "you are".
Your being is a fact, no matter how much affection, attention or love you have got in your life.
And the feeling you have now is totally different from the facts.
So you must find a way to start to believe different the facts about yourself.
In the end you will discover that there is nothing such as "high" or "low" self esteem.
Your value is a fact. If you treat yourself according to this fact, you will grow out of your problem very soon.