Concerned for my future?

Postby tumblr » Thu Nov 24, 2016 2:58 pm

I'm 16 and currently a senior in high school. The problem is I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I have literally no passion for ANYTHING. I've tried so many things but I just can't find a hobby or something I enjoy without getting tired of it really quickly. It's pretty concerning. In 11th grade I took graphic design so I have a lot of portfolio for that, and right now, I'm taking TV Production class. Those I really the only two things I take even a partial interest in. But either way I can't really choose between them. The deadline for colleges I considered is February 1st, and I would need portfolio. I have some portfolio for graphic design, but if I really wanted to go into film editing, I don't think I would have enough portfolio ready by that time I need at least 10 examples. The colleges I'm considering are Cornish College of the Arts, Seattle University, Rhode Island School of Design, and College for Creative Studies. And everything seems hard because my mindset is like: whichever I go into I won't be good enough, or the colleges will reject me cause I have a cumulative GPA of 2.9 and an SAT score of 1190.
It's so hard to push through those thoughts. It seems like my low self esteem/confidence takes over every decision in my life and effects me a lot. Like. I can't even get a part time job right now without the intense fear of messing up and I REALLY want to be able to buy a camera.. I'm afraid these things will show in my later life.
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Postby Marais » Thu Nov 24, 2016 5:13 pm

No 16 year old knows what he wants to do with his life. In most cases.
You can try working out and just being healthy for start, it will take some time to get used to be in the long run is going ot help you alot lateri n life.
Think about colleges when its time for it. No need to plan it out now.
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Postby AlexD » Thu Dec 01, 2016 10:18 pm

Your fears are so normal yet impressive that you are having them at your age. There is huge pressure on teenagers like you today, with many choices yet none of them seemingly appealing. Look, please don't worry about college. I have a doctoral degree and can assure you that if I had considered starting my own business earlier in my life, I'd had done better faster. The problem with a college is that most of them are ridiculously expensive, and by the time you finish your degree, whatever you learned may very well be outdated. Practically, there is almost no information that you pay for in college, that you wouldn't be able to find somewhere else for free. Think about it. Have you considered starting your own business? Finding a mentor who is successful in what you'd like to succeed in. It seems like you need to do some more "soul-searching". The problem is you are so young. You have already tried quite a few things, but at your age, there are usually very few things that had profoundly bugged you to the point that you would like to be the person to dedicate time and effort to solve what feels wrong. In the business world, you win big if you find a big need and solve it with a product or a service, or both.
If you are so hesitant and insecure because of your grades, why not try volunteering and working several part time jobs for at least a year, so you can actually see how others live and what they do? Fear of failure is what everyone has. The difference between the successful people and those who never succeed is that, the successful ones take action IN SPITE OF their fear of failure. And fail they do indeed, because that is called real life learning. They learn from their mistakes and keep growing and succeeding. Those who succumb to their fear of failure by taking no action whatsoever, well, they may not fail big, but they never get anywhere either! School and college today do not prepare anyone for real life. So what you are experiencing right now at age 16 in terms of fear, is usually experienced by those 5 to 10 years older than you after they graduate from college, as they realize the picture isn't any better, except for at that time they have a massive education loan debt to pay. I guess you may consider yourself more mature than them if you are scratching your head over this dilemma at such an early age. But don't let this upset you. Let it make you stronger instead. Get out in the world and try a few things. True, you may not earn tons of money, but you won't be wasting money on a useless college education that you are not sure you want in the first place. Some college can be very useful, but only if you are willing to have a boss and work long hours for them, for a limited amount of money. The sky is really the limit, but make sure to do some homework and get your feet wet a little more. I am sure there are opportunities you have not quite explored yet.
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Postby laureat » Fri Dec 02, 2016 12:29 am

well you can start with something,
you can work few hours a week with the idea of getting to know life instead of fear life
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Postby lan...kill_illusion » Fri Dec 02, 2016 3:38 am

we live in the present,so the past is not real and the future is also not real.But do you want to make money?you just make every product you good at then sell it.there is many way to get money,you must find it.
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Postby TheCloud » Wed Dec 07, 2016 7:17 am

Don't decide on something like that without knowing for sure. College is too significant of a financial investment to be made in ignorance. If you're worried about being able to pay for a camera, think about how much more college is going to cost and how much more carefully you ought to consider that investment. Loans do have to be paid back, with interest. Going a year without college to gain some maturity and insight will cost you much less in the long run.

The first thing I recommend doing is sorting out your feelings. Right now, you are only looking at possibilities, as if the only thing important about you is your GPA and the college that you go to. You won't find any life in those considerations alone. What you have to find is what is alive in you, and that starts with your feelings, which I expect nobody has ever asked you for. So what are your feelings? If you tell us, I will help you sort them as best I can.
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Postby AustinJWilson » Wed Aug 16, 2017 12:23 pm

Yeah, tell us your feelings?
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