Petakash wrote:Even though I am an adult, I keep on looking to my mother for her approval. I have done so many things in my past trying to win her approval and I have not been able to do so.
As you write here, you are not able to get from your mother what you (think you) need.
There must be a reason your mother behave herself like she do, although it's not really healthy for you.
Nor for your brother. And nor for herself.
You have the age that you want to go your own path. Great choice!
But how is it possible to let your mother go, and free yourself from your hunger to her approval?
Well, that will be a process.
There is an emotional bond between you and your mother and you are the one who have to disconnect.
Step by step, bit by bit. You have to work on your low self-esteem and in that process you will discover what your healthy boundaries are. By setting them between you and your mother, you will create the necessary space you need.