WannaSurvive wrote:Now that I want the divorce she wants help but only after reaffirming all the negative things she had said about me "in the heat of the moment".
It sounds to me that you both have difficulties in a clear communication and understanding each other.
It seems to me that you have manipulated her in a certain way.
Love is always waiting and never pushing. Did she felt the space she needed to search for her solutions on her own way?
Or did you push her in a certain direction?
However the situation is, you better start focus on your own problem while she is focusing on hers.
If you gave each other some time and space, maybe the relationship will grow out of this problem-situation?
And by the way, you as the man has definitely learn to hear what is not said.
If she is shouting to you, then try to understand what she is really saying, trying to tell you.