I am a separated woman. I have been apart from my husband for 10 months now. Meanwhile, I met a guy. He ravished me and fell in love with me. I love him back too. But I always maintained that i would not be officially with him until my divorce is discussed with my husband (we were waiting until December to see how we feel). I even tried to break it off with him so as not to cause him pain in the future.
The new guy said he is fine with that and he is willing to wait. During the course of my relationship with him, there were instances when both of us felt like we could not be more happier with anyone else. But there were also instances of both of us acting really crazy (walking out of pubs angry, leaving each others' houses etc.). Once he walked off because he was sleeping and I read an article in the other room instead of cuddling with him. I have also done pretty crazy things (googled girls who he said are hitting on him, mentioned his past too often etc.). He said (and I believed) it is because of the insecurity that comes with the situation.
But, now, I discussed the divorce with my estranged husband and the wheels are in motion. Now my boyfriend wants me to go public with our relationship. I am a bit concerned about this, since I did not even let more than a few people know about my separation itself. I would've preferred to announce it in due course rather than say "Hi, I am getting a divorce. By the way, I have a new boyfriend already." But he insists that and said we should breakup if he cannot have all of me. He thinks I am not doing this since I want to appear single in front of others (not true at all).
And this is really making me act out in ways I don't normally do. Like crying, running behind him in night clothes apologizing for not paying him attention to something he did etc. Last night, we got into an argument about the same (this time it was accidentally initiated by something annoying I said) and I even sat on the apartment floor so that he would listen to be before walking off. It made me feel very small.
My question is, is he right in making this demand or is he being controlling? I am just worried that he might keep making more demands if I keep saying yes to whatever he wants. Can this be fixed?