Journal: Not knowing why I am here!

#435

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sat Aug 12, 2017 6:22 pm

I went to bed, then woke up. It's 2:22 am here.
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#436

Postby Zanoni » Sat Aug 12, 2017 6:48 pm

I can't sleep.
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#437

Postby Candid » Sun Aug 13, 2017 6:57 am

At 7:48pm on a Saturday? What's up, buddy?

I've been in the same time zone as you for the past year.
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#438

Postby Zanoni » Sun Aug 13, 2017 9:24 am

I'm so f***ed up.
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Postby ScottMoore » Sun Aug 13, 2017 9:54 am

What's your DoC Z?
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#440

Postby Candid » Sun Aug 13, 2017 3:27 pm

Zanoni wrote:I'm so f***ed up.


I know. You desperately need to find your tribe.

... one commonality between these tribes was their ability to ostracise a member. Cast out from the tribe, the individual would not be expected to last long on their own.

... because humans have a built-in yearning to belong to a tribe.

Belonging and being accepted is part of the human genome...

The individual member would experience the gut-wrenching pain of rejection. They would have no support group to turn to. They would have no text to guide them on their next path. Ostracised from their tribe, their only company was their own thoughts. Any other species would most likely wither up and die. But mankind has an extraordinary ability to survive.

http://www.litrejections.com/tribal-rejection/
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Postby Zanoni » Mon Aug 14, 2017 2:28 pm

Agreed. How do I find my tribe?
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#442

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Aug 14, 2017 3:26 pm

Candid wrote:Great! I suggest you contact at least one of them, at least once a week and preferably more often, just for a phone chat. Make arrangements to meet in the evenings or on your one day off. Show an interest. Listen and let them know you care. Focus on them and what their lives are like. Tell them what you like about them. Get photos of them, some including you, and put these 10 photos into one poster for inside the door of the smallest room in your house.

Every time you call in, remind yourself: "These are my friends. This is my Family of Choice. I have their approval and support in my head everywhere I go."
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Postby Zanoni » Mon Aug 14, 2017 3:37 pm

I did that. Those few I contacted didn't return my calls/text.
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#444

Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Aug 14, 2017 3:44 pm

I'm off to bed. Last day in Manila tomorrow.
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#445

Postby Zanoni » Mon Aug 14, 2017 3:44 pm

I'm finishing work. #smoke
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#446

Postby Zanoni » Mon Aug 14, 2017 9:20 pm

I don't have any friends to be honest.
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#447

Postby Zanoni » Mon Aug 14, 2017 9:33 pm

I'm going to bed.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 15, 2017 4:07 am

Zanoni wrote:I don't have any friends to be honest.


It doesn't take much to make friends. You either don't want friends or like many other areas of your life, your expectations are so out of touch with reality, that you reject people when they don't meet your expectations.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Aug 15, 2017 4:28 am

Kids begging in the streets. One girl carrying a small kitten to garner more sympathy. I see them working 12+ hours. It is a seemingly intractable issue.
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