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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 08, 2018 8:14 am

Really? Personally I don't enjoy watching the same movie more than once..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 08, 2018 9:18 am

My husband likes to watch certain favourites over and over. He has a particular attachment to the 6-part BBC adaptation of Pride and Prejudice and the 12-part version of Brideshead Revisited, both of which we see about once a year. We both like The Testimony of Taliesin Jones and have seen that a few times, too.

Harry and Sally lost something over time and in the second viewing, for me. But it killed an evening... saved us having to talk to each other. :?
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 08, 2018 9:53 am

Don't know the items you mentioned haven't even heard about them maybe subject of those excites your husband that's why he watches over and over most of people have a passion like that..why have to talk your husband? Don't you like talking to your husband..that's indeed a hard situation if married..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 08, 2018 10:14 am

Any long-term married person could tell you it isn't all happy-ever-after! There are pros and cons whether you choose to get married or remain single. (I think that was the point of Harry and Sally, if there was one.) We're always on each other's side when we face trouble individually, but a lot of the time we're pursuing different interests and can end up in totally different head spaces. When we met we were both a long way past our 20s and both accustomed to having lived alone for a long time, so a lot of the time we find each other baffling. We've maintained two homes for about half of the time we've known each other, so I guess you could say we try to have the best of two worlds.

Pride and Prejudice is a classic romance. I think he's hooked on it because some aspects reflect our own situation. Don't know why or how he got stuck on Brideshead Revisited although it's probably the historical setting. He likes to know what was going on at the time a film was made, or the era in which it was set.
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 08, 2018 11:07 am

Sometimes I want to marry with someone , loneliness thing but sometimes think it would be uncomfortable living with a stranger seeing her 7/24.. marriage isn't a fairy tale it's just a cure for loneliness, think is loneliness so bad? Not always. Don't know my thoughts about marriage are mixed..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 08, 2018 11:13 am

So are mine!

I think those who do best are the young sweethearts who marry in their 20s and have one or more children. That keeps them together while they work out their lifestyle, then in later years they're involved with grandchildren's activities.

Would you like to have children?
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 08, 2018 11:38 am

Years may fade sweethearts love I sometimes visualise couples that's not good I would like to have a girl child not a boy..
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Postby Candid » Tue May 08, 2018 12:02 pm

desperate788 wrote:Years may fade sweethearts love...


It changes it. Sweethearts' love is mostly eros, physical attraction, when ideally neither party has had too much go wrong for them. Later we want someone who appreciates where we've been and what we've seen, which creates more glue to keep couples together. For instance, here in England none of my husband's friends or family know anything about the years he and I spent in Australia, just like my friends and family there don't know about the time I've spent here.

I sometimes visualise couples that's not good


Do you mean you think about unhappy couples, or that visualising couples together makes you feel bad?

I would like to have a girl child not a boy..


Make I ask why?
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 08, 2018 12:25 pm

Eros..If that's strong and doesn't fade marriage goes well. I wanted to notice that you know living with some one all day destroys romantic at all..You eat dirt the house your home cloths etc..I visualised that. I think I can live 7/24 with someone who I really love..about children I just like girls more..
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Postby Candid » Wed May 09, 2018 6:05 am

You're right that when you're living with someone for years you know all their personal habits and can't hide anything about Who You Are... but finding that you're still loved with all your faults is very precious. Loving and feeling loved makes the tough times so much easier to bear.
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Postby desperate788 » Wed May 09, 2018 6:19 pm

Candid wrote:When Harry Met Sally or Bridget Jones's Diary.

Want to watch Bridget Jones diary tonight..
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Postby desperate788 » Fri May 11, 2018 3:48 pm

Tonight too..I set up play movies at my smart tv..its cool..
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Postby desperate788 » Tue May 15, 2018 3:07 pm

I have wine..what about a party? Small scale or big scale
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Postby desperate788 » Sat May 19, 2018 7:48 am

Such a boring day...
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Postby Candid » Sat May 19, 2018 8:25 am

Today will be better. Make the most of it!
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