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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Thu Oct 19, 2017 2:38 am

Feythfull wrote: I am not his parent, his parents enabled this behavior in him.


And now so are you. That is the bottom line. You have a person that you have decided to share living space with that you are enabling. If you want the person to take responsibility, stop doing things for this person, e.g. cooking, cleaning, paying for XYZ.

If you were this person's roommate, if that was the relationship, you would be sharing space, but would not be an enabler past paying half of the bills. A roommate would be required to fend for themselves for food, clothing, etc. etc.

So, this doesn't sound like a roommate. It sounds like an intimate relationship of some form and you have replaced the parents as the enabler.
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