I get angry when I feel physical pain.

Postby Jarsnofski » Sun Dec 31, 2017 10:11 pm

I don't know what it is, but when I stub my toe or something that hurts I get super angry to where I want to flip everything in the house or maybe physically hurt myself even more. If anyone knows what this is or has a solution to help me cope with the pain let me know.
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Postby Leo Volont » Tue Jan 02, 2018 6:37 am

Inquiry I get angry when I feel physical pain Jarsnofski 01 02 18
Jarsnofski wrote:I don't know what it is, but when I stub my toe or something that hurts I get super angry to where I want to flip everything in the house or maybe physically hurt myself even more. If anyone knows what this is or has a solution to help me cope with the pain let me know.


Happy New Year, Jarsnofski. Yeah, you are having a huge Cortisol Stress Reaction. When a Person feels under attack or threatened then one of the brain's glands releases Cortisol which is a very powerful stimulant which turns the volume way up on our Animal Nature while diverting resources away from the Higher Human functions which allow us to behave reasonably. Usually Cortisol is triggered in Angry People by social slights, insults, frustrations, job or relationship stress, but in your case apparently being injured makes you feel like a Wounded Animal Fighting for Its Life.

We can deal with that. Yes, the Cortisol Gland is an unconscious mechanism which is releasing Cortisol sometimes up to 3 or 4 seconds before we realize we shouldn’t be getting angry about it. Besides, if the Cortisol was flowing that long, a whole 3 or 4 seconds, it would be likely that you would already be too wild and crazy to calm down voluntarily – out of control, as they say. BUT, there is a trick for turning off the Cortisol Reflex. It seems that the Very First Thing that happens when the Cortisol begins to flow is that the Jaw Muscles Tighten Up – you Clench Your Teeth. The next time you stub your toe, see if what I am saying isn’t true, that the Very First Thing that happens is your Mouth Tenses Up. TO TURN OFF THE CORTISOL YOU ONLY HAVE TO RELAX YOUR JAW MUSCLES. That sends a Message to the Gland that whatever it thought was the Big Emergency was just a false alarm, and the Cortisol flow will immediately stop before it is too much to deal with. Remember, you can’t wait and think about. The Very Instant that your Jaw Muscles Tense Up, you need to Relax them at that very moment, in the same Split Second. Its easy, after you get some practice at it. It works for me, and a lot of other people who have written in. For instance, my cats are all the time doing stuff to annoy me, but I have learned to immediately relax my jaw muscles as soon as they tense up, and so I’m never yelling at my cats anymore.

The trick works with everything else too. Whatever upsets you, you will realize that you never cuss and swear and make a big scene without first noticing tension in your mouth and jaw muscles. Keep your mouth relaxed and you will be the most calm and peaceful guy on earth.
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Postby aaronstraine » Tue Jan 09, 2018 11:59 pm

me too,I get really angry.
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Postby Leo Volont » Wed Jan 10, 2018 12:33 am

aaronstraine wrote:me too,I get really angry.


Hi, Aaronstraine, this is Leo. I field most every Inquiry that comes in, and I try to give a good brief though complete presentation of how each person writing in can address their Anger Issues using Techniques and Methodologies that are current in the more reputable Anger Management Literatures. So, if you have Anger Issues yourself, maybe you would benefit by reading through some of these Threads, until it all starts sounding the same to you. Of course, the Forum has other very insightful Helpers offering advise, and so you can be sure to get a full spectrum of advice.
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