Workplace Anger...CBT?

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Postby Candid » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:14 am

Look for evidence that management thinks well of you. I'm sure it's there.
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:18 am

I actually think they do in a way..But i think they also like to take some advantage of it also..I guess I'm not alone in the world thinking this way
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:27 am

Is it just meor are workplaces very strange places? They seem to bring out some of the worst in human behaviour...Al.ost bullying sometimed
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Postby Candid » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:30 am

It's always best to interpret things in a positive way. If other people treat you badly, consider that they might just be having a bad day.

From where I'm standing, the modern workplace looks like hell. Everyone's chasing money, talking themselves up, taking out their insecurities on other people. If you can rise above that, have tons of faith in yourself and just aim to do the best you can, you'll be ahead of the game.
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:36 am

And office politics id out of control where I work...So much secret gossip sessions...Colleagues text each other from one side of the staffroom to the other..Its toxic
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:38 am

Andi hate to sound sexist but it is young female staff who are the worst where I work
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Postby Candid » Sun Mar 18, 2018 8:58 am

They have something to prove. You don't, because you know.

"I have nothing to prove."
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 9:06 am

That is very helpful thank you
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Postby Candid » Sun Mar 18, 2018 9:09 am

You'll see evidence of that now. And you can show your strength by complimenting these insecure people when they do something well... perhaps even do a bit of delegating. Assume superiority and start acting more like management. That'll show 'em!
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Postby johnsmith100 » Sun Mar 18, 2018 9:22 am

I like your style !
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Postby Candid » Sun Mar 18, 2018 9:24 am

I like yours. So do other people. Start noticing how they behave towards you.
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Postby Leo Volont » Mon Mar 19, 2018 1:19 am

Candid wrote:You'll see evidence of that now. And you can show your strength by complimenting these insecure people when they do something well... perhaps even do a bit of delegating. Assume superiority and start acting more like management. That'll show 'em!


Hi Candid,

"assume superiority and start acting more like management. that will show them".... But isn't that the kind of thing that got you into Workplace Trouble?

But, yes, it does sound better than my Advice, which is "take the beatings and wait for payday". Work is something we have to endure. Put on blinders and do just enough work to not draw attention to yourself. Keep your head down. Bosses feel threatened by employees who can obviously perform at a higher level than they can. So Bosses give Good Employees Bad Ratings to keep them down. You are likely to get a better rating by just staying low and saying "yes sir" all the time.

But, Yes, of course, I wish we lived in a world where we could Thrive in the Workplace and where your good advice wouldn't create the kind of waves that would rock all the boats.
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Postby johnsmith100 » Mon Mar 19, 2018 5:00 am

Thank you Bolting you have given me some very wise advice also I feel.
So feeling like workplaces where people are battling the inside with anger sand frustrations is pretty much the norm i take it. Feeling worn out at the end of the day is part of the course I assume too. My job itself of teaching is relative easy...and dealing with kiddos prettystraightforwardtoo..Its dealing with other staff and supervisors which make it hard.
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Postby johnsmith100 » Mon Mar 19, 2018 5:04 am

Sorry that was meant to be thank you Leo Volont
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Postby johnsmith100 » Mon Mar 19, 2018 5:33 am

Thank you Leo Volont and Candid...wise advice I feel
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