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Nikki56
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Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Posts: 1
Location: Tacoma, Wa
Mon Jul 24, 2006 8:24 pm
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| This has been an ongoing problem with me..... |
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Well, I am new to this forum, so hello all!
I am 25 married with no children, and I have a problem with abandoning my jobs with no notice. The longest I have held a job is 3 years, so I know I am capable. But the past 3 or 4 jobs I have had I have just decided one day to never go in again. And they are not bad jobs either. I actually liked my last one, but this is what I do: I have a problem with attendance. I will call in sick until I cant call in anymore. Then I will feel bad because I called in so much then I just decide to quit and find another job because I feel like I have ruined my reputation at my current job by calling in so much. Then I tell myself at the next job I wont call in and I will do better, but I do the same thing!
The part I feel bad about is that I lie to everyone about why Im not working. I tell people I got laid off or i will make up a story about how bad the job was, so I dont look like a loser.
I just left my recent job 4 days ago. And I was only working 20 hours a week. I just woke up that morning, and didnt want to go in. I knew if I had another absence I was gone. But I didnt go in anyway. Then I told my husband I got laid off.
I dont know if I just dont want to work or what. I dont know if I get bored, or lazy. I dont know what it is. I have had a problem with controlling my impulses all my life. When I want to do something I do it no matter what the consequences. I tell myself I will deal with the consequences later, just so I can give into my impulses. I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!! |
Lyndsay Swinton
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Joined: 05 Sep 2003
Posts: 285
Location: Oban, Scotland
Tue Jul 25, 2006 8:44 am
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Hi Nikki56,
Thanks for your post and welcome to the forum.
What was it about the job you stuck with for 3 years that made you turn up? The people? The job itself? The hours? The location? The pay? Instead of wondering why you quit your more recent jobs, try to figure out what was so right about the job you managed to stick with.
Warm Regards
Lyndsay |
johannlim
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Joined: 07 Aug 2006
Posts: 9
Location: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Mon Aug 07, 2006 3:31 pm
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Hi Nikki56,
I am new too. At least your longest was 3, mine's never gone beyond 1 1/2 years, imagine that. I have had similar problems in many of the jobs I've had, and my impulsivity (due to ADD) was classic. I told many people many versions too (of course it was never entirely my fault), but in truth, I knew I screwed up because of a variety of reasons.
One is because I was terribly impulsive (which meant I did not think through before I made a decision). Second, I usually hated my job. It was always like this: I had low self-esteem-so I always made bad decisions-which meant I was always on the back foot-which meant I was always financially screwed-so I always had to take jobs that paid me the most-which usually meant it wasn't a job I chose but rather took-which made me very demotivated in the end because I was stuck in a job I hated.
In the end, I think it's a combination of a few things:
1. Find something you truly are passionate about
2. This job you're passionate about must also be fulfilling on some level, so you'll be able to feel like you're progressing and most importantly, contributing.
3. Don't avoid issues, they'll never leave you until you face up to them.
4. If you're a person of faith, God is a redeemer and He can restore your self-believe, even though you have little or no faith left.
5. You've got to have self-worth.
Hope this helps. =) |
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