Manipulation is normal human behavior. As an animal, we behave as all other animals do and engage in manipulation.
For instance, the cobra will bob it's head about slowly to mesmerize the mouse, and then, when the mouse is sort of in a trance, strike out at it.
The snake charmer plays a flute and also with his head movements controls or manipulates the cobra to impress and entertain tourists, who then throw him a few rupees.
The snake charmer then takes those rupees and buys some liquor. The liquor seller understands that the alcohol exerts a kind of control over the customer, causing them to come back time and time again for more.
The landlord holds the threat of eviction over the alcohol seller, so that the seller gets up every morning, sweeps his stoop, and trades rupees for liquor.
The bank that holds the note on the landlord's property keeps him on top of collecting his rent.
And so on.
All human societies form pyramidal power structures. Even in a Marxist country like Cuba, there is still a pyramid, however it's middle section is very small compared to other kinds of societies.
Insect colonies also form pyramidal power structures.
In order for humans to form pyramid power structures, each person has to be both a manipulator and a maniplulee.
The human power pyramid is actually made up of many smaller pyramids. Sometimes the various small pyramids do not have personal interconnections but are connected by the institutions. For instance, your police department is a pyramid that, unless you're a criminal, does not have a direct personal connection to you, but you are taxed to support it.
If you find yourself at the bottom of a local pyramid then you may be someone who is more a manipulee than a manipulator. There is a tendency for such persons to speak of those who manipulate them in pejorative terms, and to squawk about their victimization, and wear a halo over their heads. Yet every manipulee only wants more power, that is, to be more of a manipulator. Assigning a pejorative to your manipulators is nothing more than hypocrisy.
In many cases, the manipulee has entered into a transaction with the manipultor, such as, "if you will give me large orgasms, I will clean the home and do your errands, and give you large orgasms also". The invitation to have sex is always a manipulation of some kind, and one party always ends up with more in the deal than the other. And it's actually kind of humorous that the party getting less is often unable to see this fact because THEIR orgasms program them to over value the other party - they allow themselves to be manipulated with their own neurochemistry!!!
If two parties are more or less equal in power, they may engage in commerce, but they will never be friends or lovers, as neither will submit to the other. They can stand next to each other in the pyramid, but they can't form the close relationship of a manipulator/manipulee.
If a person does not want something from another person, he/she can't be manipulated. The employee who is manipulated by the boss has only themselves to blame for wanting a job.
But of course, most of us have to pursue a job and sex and that'w why life is hell.