Like the rest of you, I too am finding a little help from this thread.
Its been 6 months since me and my lady were friends.
and about just over 4 since she met the new guy. we were friends till then, but then I blew that by reacting.
She gave me an option. one month of no contact to start proving I had changed.
The fact is we are right for eachother.
I just wasnt mature enough at the time.
I have truly realised my mistakes and she has infact really helped me learn about what a relationship is about.
And what I do want. who I want to be and what i want in life. & that is her.
Her new guy looks just like me, when we were at our best. but older.
I know that she will be attracted to me again & that we will get along, if i could show her that ive changed.
But ive annoyed her so much, she doesnt want me in her life in any way.
& we always wanted to stay friends & have eachother in our lives.
I want to feel emotionaly strong, so i can go out there and get on with things, but now doing anything is difficult.
There must be a way.
It has been done before.
Im really into philosophy & mythology & eastern stuff. & it says that if we are sincere and correct & firm, then we will have success in our heart and anything we do will succeed.
I really want this. I know its right.
I see him & they look so good together, I now i know that WE did look so good together even more.
Hes moved in with her.
I never did, but now i know that is what i want. and i was being stubborn.
now its all clear, its just too late, or else its just so frustrating.
Is there any chance that they will not work out together?
she has been married before.
Im worried this guy is mature enough not to make the mistakes her ex husband & i made.
But i know she choose this guy because of the fact he is like me.
not like her ex, or any other guys she has fancied.
its like she specificaly went out and hand picked this guy. & usualy she is really restraintive.
shes a strong women & i really want to be her guy, i know i am the right one.
she knows how i feel. i am going to stop contacting her & try get out and find someone else.
but i just want to be with her.
I really working on myself, but afraid that the longer i leave it, the closer & more in love with this guy she will be.