I have a friend who practised psychodynamic counselling for years and was in agreement with this aspect of the BACP ethics, since she has trained in brief solution focussed therapy and hypnotherapy she has changed her views on this and says how refreshing that is.
> All I have to say is that you are not a counsellor/psychotherapist.
I really think that a comment like this requires a little more explanation. You know very little of my beliefs and values and nothing of my actual practice as a therapist. This seems to be an ad hominem argument along the lines of anyone who disagrees with your ethics and understanding of the BACP's code of ethics, is not a counsellor/psychotherapist'. A nice example of black and white thinking.
> Psychotherapy is a very healing tool if done properly. If it is not done properly it can mess the client and counslelor up forever or for a very long time.
I agree, except that the 'mess' can be rectified!
> Ethics ARE the law for counsellors and psychotherapists.
Ok to you they are synonymous. To me they are not synonymous. A law can be either ethical or unethical, an ethic can be legal or illegal. They have a different meaning.
> That just shows me how very little you actually know about this profession.
I think it shows that we have different understandings of the profession.
> I do FEELINGS and COMMEN (sic) SENSE.
For many years it was common sense that the earth was flat, until people went out explored and got more informed.
> You do not go and see a counsellor and pay them to be your friend. Go to a dating agency or friends agency instead.
I totally agree.
> You obviously have not read the framework.
Incorrect, I did read that paragraph. Obviously I have a different interpretation of it from you.
> should the counsellor feel like becoming friends with the client ....that is a form of abuse.
So for you wanting to become friends with someone is a form of abuse. I do not feel abused by people wanting to become friends with me, nor do the majority of people.
>I read in one of your websites "I am a professional, qualified hypnotherapist, with a Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy from
That is very concerning. Although you hold a 'diploma' in psychotherapy you are no psychotherapist.
I am not sure why you posted this, what point you are making, my best guess is that is a repetition of the same ad hominem argument that you made at the start, which I have already addressed. In this respect I would also ask you to familiarise yourself with the Forum Rules