Wow. Thank you all for your replies! I really didn't mean for this to start a little argument, but that's how life goes i suppose. Since there were quite a few replies, I'm going to tackle this one by one:
I am, for the most part, very happy with him. Except, lately he has been sort of pressuring me into finding what i want to do with my life. I'm in third year university right now and have very little idea what to do, and what direction I should take in school. Maybe this is the control I'm fighting for? I really don't feel like I'm ready to make a big decision as to what my future career will be, and wish to leave deciding that up to me in my own time, not on his agenda.
My boyfriend was the same way as yours. He began to think he wasn't attractive enough for me, so I felt that I needed to prove to him that he is in fact a very good looking guy. However, I feel that the more we have sex when we're not in the mood, our libidos will shrink, and shrink, and shrink. How can we have fun in bed and enjoy ourselves when we're not into it? So, each time we have sex that isn't satisfying, the more we'll think sex is boring.
You're analogy is perfect! I'm actually pondering about throwing water on him! Well, I won't, but at least I'll tell him about it
I wish I were able to throw a fit at him, but the last thing I want to do is hurt his feelings. My problem is that I'm way too passive. Maybe one day when he really pisses me off I'll just snap at him, but for now your analogy better work! lol
I agree with you that we need to rekindle our courtship. Our life together is getting kind of boring. I can predict exactly what we will be doing this weekend, the weekend after, even 5 weekends from now- and thats watching a movie and we'll most likely get one of the cheap pizzas that are walk-out specials. Sunday morning we will probably take the dog to the park for a play and then go home and lounge around all day. To spice things up a little, we might even go out for a sunday brunch and order the exact same meals as every other time, pay the exact amount, and say goodbye to the same people. As much as I love routine, I also love a little sponteniety every once in a while.
I am probably bored with him sexually; as mentioned above, we do the same things all the time. This goes the same for our sex life. The positions go in the same order all the time, we talk about the same fantasies, and we get up and walk away right after we finish. I do not, however, love him like a child. Although I do agree that I need maturity. I've always been more mature than the rest of my peers. In order to find a 'maturity match', I'm pretty sure I'll have to find a man twice my age. Since my boyfriend generally treats me great, I'm going to stick with him. Although many small things bother me about him, I couldn't imagine how my life would be without him.
**Note to all: we finally had sex today! Actual, real sex and I finally orgasmed. It felt like a great accomplishment, but I'm sure this won't happen again for a long time. But it was great either way