Masterbation and mental health.

Postby Bentheman » Mon Jan 14, 2008 10:30 pm

I noticed that masterbation seems to make me very tired, unenergetic, depressed, guilty, and have low self esteem. I'm a 20 year old male, and since I was about 13 I've masterbated at the very least every other day. For the past few years, masterbating daily was normal for me. But I noticed that when I go a few days without doing it, I begin to feel a lot more energic. But man, it's addicting and its so hard to go a few days without doing it. After like the third or fourth day then it becomes easier and easier to go on without masterbating. Is this normal? Do you guys have this same experience with masterbating?
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Postby Nameless » Mon Jan 14, 2008 10:58 pm

Hmm. I'm not one to usually voice my habits, but in this case I'll make an exception.

I just got really bored of my usual Tuesday night's forum hopping, fired up a couple of youporns to watch, when a friend called and invited me out.

"I'll be there in ten... no wait, maybe 20 minutes" I said, planning to continue with my viewings. But then I thought maybe I should leave it until I get back afterwards, in case the bollock-yogurt actually does give us that slight extra zest in social situations.
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Postby gosh » Tue Jan 15, 2008 12:35 am

Yes. Excessive bishop-killing is bad for you. One way to change might be to make it a "special occasion" (yea I know what it sounds like rofl). Elevate your quality standards when it comes to pornography and learn to differentiate between good and bad "sessions".
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Postby jurplesman » Tue Jan 15, 2008 2:49 am

Although masturbation in itself is pretty harmless, when it becomes an addiction it will start to interfere with your life. It is not so much that masturbation gives you a low self-esteem, but rather the other way around, that people who have a low self-esteem - preventing them from courting in the normal manner - resort to masturbation as the only sxual outlet for unrequited intimacy with real women.

Thus, it is a self-esteem matter that can cause addictive behaviour of one kind or an other. You'll find if you get rid of the negative self-image, your social life will improve and masturbation will not be the ONLY sexual outlet in life.

Read:

The Positive Ego Training Program
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Postby nickysantana7 » Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:26 am

maybe you need more exersise! are you working? & how much freetime do you have?

It sometimes can bee seen as a pressure releaf for some people or a comfort thing just like smoking, sex, eating, or mild drink or drug abuse.

eather way dont worry to much i think it is naturall..
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Postby nickysantana7 » Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:30 am

maybe you need more exersise! are you working? & how much freetime do you have?

It sometimes can bee seen as a pressure releaf for some people or a comfort thing just like smoking, sex, eating, or mild drink or drug abuse.

eather way dont worry to much i think it is naturall..
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Postby PsyChris » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:55 am

It really depends on your view of masturbation. Objectively speaking masturbation is harmless.

Masterbation does not make you feel any of those things. Masterbation gives you a heavy dose of euphoria brought on by orgasm and dopamine release in your brain. Coming down off the natural high from that combined with those feelings of guilty is what generates that feeling of depression.


I find with alot of people this guilt comes from how you were raised. If you were taught that self-pleasure is dirty or wrong it could generate those negative feelings.
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Postby Nameless » Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:12 am

My mum was a weird one, she had the "everyone does it" talk with me but at the same time told me off for looking at porn because it's "degrading for women"

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Postby NeoSBackJustOnce » Thu Jan 17, 2008 1:07 pm

Masturbation can help stop prostate cancer. True.
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Postby senseless13 » Thu Aug 07, 2008 12:58 am

Masterbation does give me a guilty bad feeling aswell. I find when I don't do it I am more eager for sex, get it more and have more erotic dreams which is incredible for the sex life. Imagination and fantasy being key. Sometimes I just get so damned turned on when im alone I really cant help myself but i generally feel bad afterwards. Its not good for confidance. Not masterbating teaches you how to wait for a good thing and get it when the time presents itself and you deserve it. All good things come to those who wait. Girls can sense when your extra horny aswell which turns them on a whole lot more. Any real master doesnt masterbate. Its so much more pleasure getting a woman to do it 8)
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