Annie7788 wrote:I reckon you just need to learn to ignore it if friends say they don't notice.
Although you have to be very careful letting them near the head and neck area (as there have been reports of strokes in one in a million..), have you ever been to a chiropracter to have it looked at? Some can work wonders.
Hydrogen wrote:I remember I had a roommate who was a clean freak. A clean house is very settling, but this was way overboard, like washing the kitchen floor almost every day. This much perfection is a lot of work, so there was a tendency for my roommate to control the house and assign tasks to meet their level of need. This was way more work then I wanted, or needed, so it led to problems. The way I cured it was to say, if you want it that way, I am all for it, but you do it. I would also go in the other direction and sort of add work just by being more sloppy. I might spill something on the kitchen floor and half clean it up. At first the person kept up, constantly complaining, until one day I wore them out. Washing the kitchen floor became a once a week thing which was an easier burden to share. After that my roommate was much happier, with more time.
The need to control and organize the environment was a projection of the disorder in their mind caused by the obsession. This internal disorder was settled externally by controlling the order within the environment. Once that external control was beyond their control it was released, and an inner order appeared. I would suggest an environment that will frustrate you, until you hit your saturation point, then you will give it up and relax. It is sort of the opposite of rock bottom, more of a rock top where you get squished against the upper ceiling of your obsession.
Annie7788 wrote:dicky I'm not sure how old you are, but I used to be very self conscious at times during my late teens early twenties. I think a lot of it was down to the lack of a bond between my judgemental conscious side and my emotional and sensitive subconscious. It was only by making peace between these two parts of my personality so that they were on each other's sides that I learned not to care.
I did this with conscious effort of the conscious side feeling compassion and giving love to the subconscious side. It took a few months and included a lot of concentration on relaxing and visualising complete stillness inside. I guess when you feel the way you do, it's because you are looking at yourself in the way that you imagine these people you meet see you. You are harshly judging yourself and the judgement you heap is much harsher than any version of reality.
I mean we all meet people every day. All these people form an opinion of us. We also form opinions of them. The important thing is to give a higher balance to the opinion we form of them and not worry overtly about the opinion they form of us. The important thing is to be at peace with the opinion you have of yourself and then you cannot be wounded by anyone else's views.