Twin, I wish I knew what to say to help you. Your wife sounds like she has her mind made up. I would suggest asking her to meet with you, just to talk. Let her know she can walk away at anytime, but that you would like for her to truly hear you out with an open mind. You should talk face to face. Let her see that you are serious. If you have never cried before and suddenly you are crying in front of her, something to this effect may make an impact on her. Let her know how important it is to you for you to keep your family together for the children's sake as well. Then tell her that if she doesn't want to move home, that is ok, but ask if you can go out on a few dates together, something to give you a chance to PROVE that you really have changed. If she doesn't see the change, she can turn and walk the other way with nothing lost. But if she does, it could mean the difference between divorce and a successful marriage. You have to make her think that doing this will benefit her. You have to be willing to do this on her terms and with her rules, and let her know that you are. Tell her that she can set the boundaries and you will not move any faster than she is willing. Maybe this could be a new beginning. If you really did come to a realization after your accident, which I do know happens to many people, tell her what happened to you. Be completely open and honest with your feelings and don't hide any of the truth from her.