I don't know how to continue surviving my life

Discussions in depression - new perspectives on depression. Get help if you are suffering, and discuss approaches if you are a therapist.

Postby greeneyelioness » Thu Sep 10, 2009 4:42 am

I'm 35 years old and a single mother of 2 teenagers. I don't know how I continue to survive my depression. I have anxiety and am bi-polar (on no meds thanks to having no health insurance) and I think about suicide more than I'd like to admit. I have absolutely no friends and am estranged from my family, although for the sake of my children, I have been trying to work things out with them.
All of my life, ever since I can remember, I have had bad things happen to me and can not remember much that was good for me. Someone once said to me that if they had to go through the things I have, they would have killed themselves by now. I don't feel comfortable around people anymore because no one seems to have been through the things I have and so I don't have friends anymore. I get depressed when I hear other people's life stories and they don't have anything close to what I went through, even when I hear about the worst times in their lives.
I honestly can not think of any happy times in my life and once I think things are getting better, something tragic happens again. I don't know how much more I can take.
I have absolutely no willpower. I am 75 pounds overweight and am ashamed of what I look like. I used to be an exotic dancer and now I feel like a fat cow. I don't eat well and when it comes to exercise,I get tired just thinking about it.
I get tired thinking of a lot of things. I am worn out from my life and while I am intelligent with a high IQ, I seem to constantly be living in this exhausted state, like I'm just waiting for the next bad thing to happen because I know it will.
I don't go out, except to work or to shop for the house. I want to start horseback riding again, which I loved as a kid, but am ashamed that I look the way that I do and that I don't have the money I need to do it. That was the one thing, the only thing I do remember that made me happy.
I don't know how to turn things around. I don't enjoy my life anymore and I want it to end.I don't necessarily want to commit suicide, but I need my life to change. I need the misery of my life to die and a better happier life to be born.
I move us constantly, always looking for "home" someplace where I can find out who I am. I love the field of work I am in and love my children but I am so miserable all of the time. My life exhausts me. I have no clue who I am anymore except that I am miserable all of the time. I never have money and when I do get paid, I try to do things for my kids because I feel so guilty that they were born to me so our bills are always late. I spend more money on fast food for myself than I do on the things we need at home.
People always tell me how strong I am to get through the things I have gotten through but I'm tired of being strong. I'm tired of being forced to be strong. I don't want to be strong anymore. I want to live and smile, and just be happy. I want to enjoy my life and not look around my life and think, that it shouldn't be like this. I have no hopes anymore.
What can I do? How can I have willpower to live when all I ever have is pain and sadness? Please, someone, please tell me something anything that can take my life away and give me something new in return.
I have often wanted to be exorcised not because I feel like I am possessed but to rid the bad energy that is my life. I am very empathic and feel very deeply the sadness of others and am drawn to discord. I don't create turmoil but chaos does seem to follow me. I don't intentionally go out and seek drama and pain- but I always have it in my life. I did away with the friends I thought were bringing me down and don't date so I can't use a bad relationship as an excuse. It is my fault and I know it but I don't know why it is my fault. It's not like I go out set to ruin our lives.
How an I rid my life of this? How can I escape all this pain I feel and be happy tomorrow so I can be confident once again? Where do I find willpower, which to me means hope, when all of my life I have not been allowed to hope for anything because everything that I ever want gets destroyed or taken from me?
Please tell me how to keep surviving my life when all I want to do is lay down and let it be over.
greeneyelioness
New Member
 
Posts: 14
Joined: Sat Aug 23, 2008 12:53 am

Postby PsyChris » Thu Sep 10, 2009 4:51 am

I think you mentioned something very important in the beginning of your post. You have bipolar disorder and are not taking bipolar medication.

I'm not sure what type of bipolar you have but I would venture to say you experience longer periods of highs and lows. These periods can last anywhere from a few months to many years. Perhaps you were in a "high" in your younger years and are not experiencing the negative effects of the depressive state. You can't treat the lows without the highs.

Not all bipolar medication is expensive. If you are truly unable to afford medication there are plenty of mental health services that can offer it to you at little or no cost. Check with your health department and they will send you in the right direction.

Bipolar disorder is something that needs to be treated with medication for many people. It's only a lucky few who can function without it.

Your home environment certainly isn't helping your depression. I think before you can fix your family situation and make a better life for your kids, you need to help yourself first.

I hope that you find the help you need, here or elsewhere. Keep us posted.
PsyChris
MVP
MVP
 
Posts: 1453
Joined: Sun Dec 23, 2007 2:42 pm
Location: Brooklyn, NY

Postby jurplesman » Fri Sep 11, 2009 6:59 am

I can only agree with PsyChris, in that you should try to get some treatment for your Bipolar Disorder. My brother was Bipolar and I know what you are talking about. I myself had a depressive illness for many years. I can assure you that a lot can be done with a combination of drugs and nutrition.

I suggest that you read some of the articles at our web site and in particular;

The Nutritional Aspects of Schizophrenia --> page 7

and discuss with a Nutritional Doctor. Much of this applies to Bipolar Disorder as well. If you cannot afford a doctor, please rely on your own reading for more information.

Other articles at:
Dr. MR Werbach on Bipolar Disorder

Nutritional Aspects of Bipolar Disorder

Treatment of Bipolar Disorder with Lecithin

Please search our web site for "Lecithin, Bipolar Disorder".

It is essential that people with Bipolar Disorder go on a Hypoglycemic Diet

Of course stimulants like caffein, allergies and/or use of alcohol should be avoided as much as possible.
Also try to get the book by Werbach and discuss with the doctor.

Werbach,M.R.(1991), NUTRITIONAL INFLUENCES ON MENTAL ILLNESS, A Sourcebook of Clinical Research, Third Line Pres, Inc.Tarzana. Cal.
Reviewed at:
here to stabilize moods.

I hope I have been of some help, let us know how you get on.
jurplesman
Super Member
 
Posts: 14147
Joined: Mon Jun 21, 2004 5:38 am
Location: Sydney, Australia




Return to Depression