lisa87 wrote:The problem is... as much as I love my life right now. I really don't love the way people think of me. I'm not really an antisocial, I just like to do things alone. I shop, go to movie, eat at a fancy restaurant.... Alone.... After school or work, I don't like to hang out with my friends. In fact, I find it's a duty and a tedious chore when I go out with them, just so I don't look like a nerd with no friends.
I am a pretty girl, I have a lot of attention from the guys. But because of my lack of interest in them and my friends, I was often called the stuck up girl. And because of my love for doing things alone, I become the weird stuck up girl. Some people actually feel sorry for me when they see me alone in the theater or a restaurant.
It's annoying because I'm happy and yet either people feel sorry for me or think they're better than me (I'm very competitive) because I'm a loner. And it's so stupid that people don't think it's right for an attractive girl to lead a lonely life (apparently it's normal for an ugly girl to lead a lonely life?)
Actually I'm here to hopeful get some encouragements. I am proud of myself. I'm a good person; I never think I'm better than anyone. I have goals and passions. And I feel I'm having a pretty good life. But my family is worry for my weird way of living life. They too, don't understand how it's ok.
How people think about you may be the reason why you feel "depressed" sometimes, because they twist and turn reality, gossip and will approach you as if you are a miserable girl with no friends and no normal life.
In the past I was popular and had tons of friends and I made the decision to become a loner for the same characteristic and perspective reasons as you do.
My choice made me happier then ever, though, what I say above happened, and I made one BIG mistake, I let them get to me and started reacting sad and angry, not because I doubted my choice but the way people started to approach and treat me.
I guess, my big mistake is the best encouragement I can give... Don't let people get to you because they aren't capable/intelligent enough to understand that your happy with the way you and your life is. And about your family, see it as this, even though there worries are unnecessary, good for you to know they care about you, eventually (unlike people that think they have or are better then you) they will understand that there is nothing wrong. In my opinion that's what matters.
Girl, you keep it going how you like it