Motivated wrote:Thanks for your responses.
Satanstoystore - It's kindof empowering to realize it's within my control, in how I think & feel about myself. Were you referring to self-hypnosis?
Dave - I think that's what's going on - I've got an imagination that's working against me. I need to consider other possible explanations. I realized that I also assume others feel the way I do & am often careful not to ignore or leave others out, but I get upset when the favor's not returned. I've chalked it up to rudeness, but maybe that's narrow-minded. I think taking care of my needs is important - giving myself validation (in thoughts), self-expression/creativity, having fun etc..
A way to consider that it is not rudeness is to begin to acknowledge the different personality types. Look into taking a free online (40ish question) Myers Briggs personality inventory test. They are free for the basic report which will give you a "type." I am willing to bet with almost certainty that you will test a specific type. I will like you to take the test and then post back (without saying the 4 letter personality type result) when you are done. In response, I will post what type I think you will score.
See, people have different personalities. Some types tend to not click with each other and some do. Opposite types can actually be very good for each other as they can balance and help develop weaker areas of current traits within the personality. The more aware you are of the different types, the more you will be able to understand and not take personally the different people's responses who are in your life.
Try it out; its fun and pretty accurate for being such a brief "test."