Some people trust others without question only then find the person to be of less than moral character in return. Others just seem to be born with the innate ability to read another persons character right from the start. Another viewpoint is that it is just as difficult for evil to see good as it is for good to see evil. Meaning if someone doubts you have good intentions driving your actions it is more than likely because they are operating from a derogatory standpoint intent on gaining their desires at all costs without regard.
So how does one go about developing the ability to recognize people's true intentions when they are headed in your direction? Or, more importantly, what actions do you take to protect yourself once you have discovered these people do not have your best interests at heart?
Developing our self-esteem is one method of getting a clearer image of what's really going on. How? Well, simply because if a person is suffering from a low level of self-esteem then they are more prone to allowing someone to take advantage of them in an attempt to gain approval or acceptance. The more time we spend time on self-discovery gaining understanding about the truly remarkable beings we really are, the more difficult it becomes for us to allow others to cause us harm of any kind since we grow to respect and truly care for ourselves.
All too often, we are quick to come to the aid of others "worthy causes" on their behalf while we simultaneously neglect our own well-being with complete and utter disregard. We engage in these actions because serving them serves as a distraction from having to come to terms with our own behavior. We think it is easier to help fix them than it would be to focus our attention on self-improvement since we already know we won't like what we see when we take a good look at how we may be treating ourselves. If we did like what we see when we look in the mirror then our personal will would never allow us to succumb to another's harmful intentions.
The next time your instincts indicate your well-being may be at risk I recommend you try saying, "No," for a change. You may find this little word is pack with power towards restoring your own self-worth and may even earn you increased respect from others since you will be displaying a strong sense of personal will they didn't know you possessed.
Brady Cameron is the author of four personal development books. He is currently working on the Third Volume in The Teachings of Soke Draconis. He has Founded Creotology Personal Development so that people can explore their consciousness and live with passion. The mental technologies that are used are state-of-the-art for manifesting what you want into your life.