animefan1688 wrote:Yes, I see where you're coming from. The "mother Theresa" is a great example, but I don't think she is a control freak, she's more in the line of a perfectionist, because she's not doing what she's doing because she wants to show off how great she is, nor does she want to show that she's above everybody else, she's doing it for the good of mankind, because that's just who she is, she's not doing it because she wants to be recognized as this holy great person, she's doing it because she truly wants to do something for the good of mankind, see, that's what I'm talking about, for perfectionists, it's all about what they WANT to do and what they personally believe in, it has nothing to be with other people. Control freaks on the other hand, just want to be superior than others, their motivation come from showing off how great they are in comparison with others, and they derive their satisfaction from the humiliation of others and stepping on others to prove they are superior.
That's why I think the two are completely different, almost two ends of the continuum because their focal points are completely different.
I'm afraid I don't agree with either definition. I don't think control freaks are defined by wanting to be seen to be the best and I don't think perfectionists have a choice.
I think control freaks have the urge to dominate and control others and in fact control their own life. Whether they are seen to be superior by others is irrelevant to their drive. They have a fear that there will be a disaster if they are out of control.
Perfectionists have an urge to do things in the best way possible. To make sure nothing is swept under the carpet and that no boxes are left unticked.
I would adjust my earlier statement and say that there is a link in that they both have a fear of what will happen if they just let things be. A fear of chaos maybe.
But the perfectionist is not interested in controlling people unless that is their job. They want to make everything just right. But a control freak wants everyone to jump to their tune and not have a mind of their own.
I don't think these are opposites because the opposite of the control freak is someone who is easy going. The opposite of a perfectionist is a slob. I think where it gets confused is that there are control freaks who are also perfectionists because this gives them another thing to use in their control of others.