Life After Depression and Anxiety

Postby gregorymichael » Sat Mar 12, 2011 12:20 pm

Hi All,

Its been so long since I've visited the site but wanted to share with you that as the topic reads; there is life after depression and anxiety. The recovery process is really a lifetime and life goes on. For those that we've shared posts in the past from those gloomy days in 2004 and earlier, I have turned my entire life around.

I am attaining one qualification after another, and now the HR person in a mental health organisation, have bought my own property and life seems to be becoming very manageable and enjoyable; the really is a 'good life.'

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Postby gregorymichael » Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:48 pm

How I felt back in 2005.

''It was during this time I joined this forum and discovered others who were experiencing similar and different stages of turbulence in their lives. This was by no means uplifting or spirit-building, but I shared my feelings and experiences with others and they with me. My anxiety was at an extremely high level as I read of others misfortunes and as I also replied to some with an empathy not known to me before.

I constantly questioned this acute level of anxiety and could not validate it, nor could I accept it any longer. As I ‘interviewed’ this anxiety I found it to be something similar to a ‘lost’ driver in search of a ‘vehicle’ to be driven anywhere but in a positive direction. It was then I rediscovered that the driver of this vehicle is to be me and me only. No one drives my vehicle but me.

It is difficult to express four years of mental torment into a forum article, but what I am saying, there is a LIFE after depression and anxiety, please BELIEVE me; and if I can help by answering some questions I am only too pleased to do so. I never lost site of one very important aspect of the self: FAITH; not in a religious context but as an inner motivation. The light was dim for a considerable time, but it was never extinguished.

Anxiety and depression are like bad friends, when we gain the courage to choose our real and true friends, the bad ones will have no choice but to leave and become mere memories."

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Postby kfedouloff » Sun Mar 13, 2011 8:25 am

Hello Greg!

Welcome back!

It's wonderful to hear that your life has turned round and that you are now in a good place.

It is one of the characteristics of depression to be unable to believe that things can, and will, get better. It seems like nothing can ever change. But of course, things DO change, and people DO recover from depression and anxiety.

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Postby Cooler » Sun Mar 13, 2011 9:40 am

Hi Greg,

Nice to meet you. :)

I very much agree with your point about empathy. I'm a long term survivor too and feel the same about empathising with those in crisis.

Welcome back.

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Postby gregorymichael » Sun Mar 13, 2011 9:53 am

Hi Kathleen,

You are right, things do change; it takes lots of work and self belief above the doubt. There was a time that I used to dread tomorrow but now I can't wait for the next challenge. However, I will never lose sight of how I've arrived at this point.

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Postby gregorymichael » Sun Mar 13, 2011 9:58 am

Hi Alex,

After a long time from being on the forum, I feel there is much I can contribute to those who are finding life difficult; life can be difficult but there can also be satisfaction in finding meaning in our experiences.

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Postby gregorymichael » Tue Mar 15, 2011 8:15 am

Maybe something to consider (if you haven’t) discussing with treating professionals.

“Although medication can be useful in relieving symptoms, it is important to remember that the symptom is actually part of the healing process. .......like anxiety and depression are not themselves diseases but rather the soul's attempt to resolve an inner conflict —by forcing us to pay attention to the unconscious dark side of ourselves that we would rather ignore.

This understanding reclaims the true meaning of psychiatry: healing the soul. It views the anxiety and the disturbing symptoms of mental illness not merely as a chemical imbalance in the brain (though that may be part of it) but more importantly as a wake-up call for the soul.

Healing—making whole the divided self—comes through experiencing, accepting, and taking responsibility for the dark side of ourselves in what I describe as the six phases of the psychotherapeutic process: an inward journey of self-discovery in which we allow ourselves to feel what we really feel and so become who we truly are.”

http://www.eliofrattaroli.com/main.asp

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Postby nicolelord2 » Tue Mar 15, 2011 9:55 am

After depression life become normal. I hope it will continue till end..
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Postby gregorymichael » Tue Mar 15, 2011 11:00 am

Hi nicolelord2,

After depression the journey of recovery begins with a very unique journey; not a pre-illness state but there will be some of what is considered normality.

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Postby Paul Doherty » Tue Mar 15, 2011 5:03 pm

I see depression as a way of avoiding life/hurt.

I got hurt in the past and as a result i turned inwards and my anxiety state was a force field which did not allow anyone in from hurting me again.

Having to lower my anxiety/force field is what i am learning now as this is the only way of overcoming depression and anxiety and trusting again!

Its a slow painful process-baby steps so far!
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Postby gregorymichael » Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:14 am

Hi Paul,

People different meaning in their depression; I turned inwards because that's where I felt the pain and depression for me was a process of working through my inner most turmoil. A slow and very confronting process taking hardline actions in addressing my worries.

I agree, it is a very slow, painful and exhausting process; and yes, quite often by taking very small steps which can take years to overcome.

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Postby gregorymichael » Thu Mar 17, 2011 8:39 am

I found the following a benefit and inspiring with or without the reference to a specific religion:

Right in the midst of depression your soul is practically dead. You become almost like a mere body walking around in total loss, and total inability to cope with life's even smallest chore. You lose your drive, interest, and all the things that you used to enjoy before becoming very distant and obscured from your immediate reality. You live in the moment that you're in only because everything else is obscured to your immediate awareness. You might pace endlessly in total loss and inability to get a grip back on your life. Your coping mechanisms go on the blink. And life becomes a personal cell of suffering.

http://www.depressionet.com.au/stories/afaf.html

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Postby gregorymichael » Sat Mar 26, 2011 4:22 am

Steps to help work through depression

1) GET HELP. Don't be ashamed of needing help, and don't give up until you find something or someone that can help. This includes finding a SUITABLE therapist.

2) IDENTIFY your feelings and moods. Depression is a self-destructive effort to avoid feeling. Accept that emotions are natural and helpful. Learn that mood changes don't come "out of the blue" - they are always started by an event, a memory, a dream. Maybe start a Mood Journal to help identify what starts your mood changes.

3) CHALLENGE depressed thinking. People with depression remember and blame themselves for bad events, while they forget about and give others credit for good events. Their low expectations mean they often don't prepare adequately and give up too easily. Worst, they think they are essentially different - damaged somehow - from other people. These are all learned habits of thought that can be unlearned. Pay attention to your assumptions and beliefs.

4) Let OTHERS know. Depressives fear intimacy more than most people. We put on masks for the world, because we believe our true selves to be shameful, unworthy. But this belief is unhealthy and wrong. When we're with someone we can trust, sharing our thoughts and feelings - even if they seem unimportant - is good for us.

5) Take CARE of yourself. Learn to pay attention to messages from your body. Depressives abuse themselves by not eating right, not exercising, then expecting to work often more than they should. They will deny a minor ache or pain until they have an ulcer or a chronic back condition. Take time for moderate exercise, eat healthy and delicious meals, and allow yourself some pleasure in life. Try not to feel the need to punish yourself whatever the tendency.

6) Practice DETACHMENT. We spend far too much time and effort trying to control things that aren't worth the struggle. Many things that worry us are really unimportant; we've just gotten over involved and lost our bearings. We may find that we're trying to change things that we realistically cannot change. Instead of battering your head against a brick wall, learn to walk away.

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Postby Renfred » Sat Mar 26, 2011 6:57 am

Yes buddy, Life without tension and depression is really nice and awesome one.... But the tension's and depression's are the part of life and we have to face those with bravery, That's the reality of life, Nobody will change it or refused to it..... However, Congrats to come back to a normal life.....
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Postby gregorymichael » Sun Mar 27, 2011 1:17 am

Either gradually, over a long period of time or suddenly we have run into an emotional brick wall. Over the longer period we’ve encountered what could be considered bouts of anxiety, uncertainty, with a fear that relentlessly stalks waiting to strike with a full force of emotional upheaval. Alternatively, we’ve suddenly been stripped of all emotional resources and positivity resulting in overwhelming disharmony shattering any sense of purpose. We feel completely powerless to change or move to any safe area.

Because of our most basic perceptions of experiences which are ego responses to circumstances that we’ve created, there comes a helplessness that we become subservient to. So, depression can be seen as a result of loss of authority or power over our own life. The ego seems to render itself helpless as it retreats because the ego is not the ‘real’ you and you must search far beyond to a faith deeply ingrained within. This will become the source of our real power and strength, no matter how deep the depression is.

Ideally, the ego needs to be dissolved before perceptions will change. New and creative thought, actions and new experience will alter perceptions. Try to replace you in your mind and perceptions and see yourself as another would from the outside looking in. Listening attentively to your inner self, your soul will in time return the control of the real you. Please try to honour yourself and trust in the strength of your soul and not the ego; the ego is not ‘real’ - think about that seriously.

I know the hideous pain and torment that depression brings and permeates; relief seems forever out of reach but by taking the smallest of steps each day will make a mountain of difference in time. It really is up to us and remember, ask for help. As depression is apart of ourselves, if we ‘fight’ it we are essentially fighting ourselves, so working through the concerns and issues that depression brings will lessen frustrations and confusion and to help maintain a level of control in regaining a structure of alignment within ourselves.

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