sdetz wrote:She doesnt talk about her emotions, even when i ask her, she just smiles and sends me a <3 over text message.
It sounds as if she's genuinely happy and knows what she's about. People like that get bored and irritated by more sensitive souls demanding to see their emotions.
It's in deep now, because we all have mutual friends now, im friends with all her friends, and vice versa. we all party together, so if we do break up we'll never get away from each other.
Nonsense. People who've been married for decades get away from each other and start new lives. You and your girlfriend are far from that level of intimacy, as she keeps demonstrating to you. Of course, the longer you leave it the more difficult and painful it becomes. Not only that, I would lay money on her
being the one to call it quits... and then you will have no choice.
Does this just mean we are two completely different people
Did you not know that? Of course you are two completely different people! Can't you remember having experiences and feelings before you met her? You are hypnotising yourself into believing you somehow have
to be with this person, no matter how she treats you. It can only end in tears -- yours, not hers. She'll still smile and send you a <3 now and again, I'm sure.
I love her to death
Betcha don't. Not even close. I'm estimating a few more weeks at most, after which you'll be telling everyone who'll listen how badly she treated you. But where's your responsibility in this? How many brownie points do you think you'll score for hanging around moaning while she has a laugh about you with her best female friend and does who knows what with her best male friend? Because you aren't either of them, I've noticed... and that doesn't look like undying love to me.
when it's just me and her things are perfect i'd never change a thing, it's just when her friends are around...
Have you got the cash to buy an island and the means to kidnap her? If so, you might have a shot of hanging on for more than a few weeks. But if you love her you also have to love that party girl, because that's mostly who she is.
Id just like a kiss or an acknowledgment every once in a while.
I presume that happens when you two are alone, since you say everything is perfect then. But here's a tip: if something perfect doesn't hold up in the presence of other people, it's as perfect as a one-legged albatross with a terminal illness. People give and receive affection in front of other people as a way of staking their claim, of announcing to their friends that they're hot for each other. You'd like her to do that but she never will, because you're just there as respite from her busy social life.
In essence what you are saying though is we shouldnt be together?
I wouldn't presume to say that to you, I'm sure you can work it out for yourself. At this stage you think you "love her to death" regardless of her clear messages that she doesn't feel the same way.
But don't take my word for it, ask her next time you're alone and things are perfect. Ask her whether she's willing to commit to you, and if she says yes, make sure she understands you've got to be numero uno in her life and she'll have to tone down her affection/lust for other people. I think you already know what she'll say to that.