My boyfriend is 17, I am 16. We've been dating for a year until he started to go to parties with other people and get absolutely drunk. I trust him when sober, but I'm not sure about when he is drunk. I've been around him once or twice when he was a lil' tipsy, but he didnt act much different, just more social.
When I'm not there, I get very paranoid about him meeting new people. I get scared all the time that he might meet a very good looking girl with a great body and maybe get a lil' tempted and do something really stupid he would never do while sober. I have huge insecurities with myself and how I look just like a lot of girls, so that doesnt really help the situation especially when I think about it and let it get into my head (believe me, I try not to let it get that far). He's been out so many times like this, and he hasnt done anything once. He's talked to girls, met new people but never has he done anything beyond the casual handshake or with a friend (that is a girl) a simple hug. One girl seemed to hug him a lil' tighter than other girls do and this particular girl has been known to be a massive flirt around other guys without knowing it, but that was just once or twice and I did not like it one bit and it did not help the situation whatsoever.
I also have jealousy issues. He gets to go out. He has a stress relief from his family, from school whereas I have non. I have to stay home cooped up and trapped, I barely have the chance to head out with my girl friends let alone other friends because everyones is busy or I'm not invited anywhere. I get really jealous and really angry about it because I have no stress relief, I have no escape.
How can I learn to trust him with all this paranoia? I honestly don't know what to do and I hate sitting at home miserable while he's out at gatherings or parties scared of what would happen and my constant jealousy. I'm also scared he might meet someone else and gain feelings for them and forget about me...
What can I do to ease my paranoia? What can I do to gain trust to him and what can I do to get rid of this jealousy? He's never done anything to make me mistrust him, but I just don't know why I'm like this and I would really appreciate it if you helped me find a solution