One thing you should focus on is reference experiences, this will help you to change your beliefs about women and dating, and you will connect more with the "reality" of it all. So try to go on some dates, get some phone numbers, kiss/makeout with some girls, and of course sleep with them if you're inclined. I think you are coming from a mindset of scarcity with women where you don't feel like the world is offering you an abundance of them, where you could date any woman you wanted.
So you should focus on improving yourself in this area. Be "selfish" for a while to help yourself out. You have to improve yourself and develop yourself in this area (meeting women, relationships, etc) before you are any value to the rest of the world and before you can help others if you want to do that. If you have skills with women (to whatever degree you want) then these will be appreciated because you will be "that type of guy" who is masculine and who girls WANT to be attracted to, but unfortunately for them there aren't many masculine type guys out there who know what they want. And you will be comfortable with women as well, this will make the world a better place.
Good luck! I could be off the mark in terms of what you're asking/what your problems are, lol.