I am not sure if this is me, but i don't fully understand my wife. In most ways she is great, she is very caring a great mother and good with my parents and always seems concerned about me and my health.
However I always see her looking at good looking guys when she is with me, it is more than just a quick look but a full on locked eyes situation.
Whenever we make new friends or go out in a social group she always seems to lock on to the best looking guy in the room and keep looking over and as my wife is attractive they usually look back.
I haven't seen any signs at all that my wife is having an affair etc.
Also my wife has done this with my brother in law ever since we got married 10 years ago, they always lock eyes with each other like there is some sexual chemistry between them, although she says to me that she thinks he is ugly, but I think she finds he funny and interesting etc.
But I am finding this really hard to deal with as it seems to knock my self confidence every time this happens which is basically, every family event and times when we meet with friends.
My wife really is full on with the staring and she seems to do it right in front of me so i can see it, in the past i have had arguments with her about this but nothing changes. I mean one can be left in no doubt that she is locking eyes with people.
I think i have spotted my sister in law notice her locking eyes with her husband as she has seemed very angry on a few occasions but i am not sure if i am imaging this and they have had a row about other matters before we meet etc.
My wife has never been very touchy or sexual throughout the marriage but this has worsened, i get a good night kiss etc and she does appear to still care about me and when i was feeling down about myself says things like I am really good looking etc, but this makes me even more confused.
We are both won out alot of the time with work and kids, but we have not had any intimacy in the relationship for a year and we only seem to have sex once a year these days.
The flirting with my brother in law is really getting to me as he is such a big head and full of himself and i can tell that he gets a big boost from this while it knocks my confidence, and I would not have thought my wife would be attracted to this type of person so find this upsetting as well, as if she is not the person that i thought she was after 10 years.
any advice would be appreciated - thanks