Feeling empty inside, what do you do

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Postby bigbear826 » Sat Jul 02, 2005 5:42 pm

I am dealing with Major anxiety and low self-esteem. I feel so numb inside as though something has stolen my identity and personality. I find it impossible to even make small talk with anyone much less my family. Communicating is hard for me because nothing is in my mind, there is nothing to say. What do I do. Has anyone else experinced this? I am looking for answers. Any kind of help would be a relief. Thanks and God bless.
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Postby A_B » Sun Jul 03, 2005 1:58 pm

Thats pretty much how I have always felt, but right now those feelings have pretty much taken over my life, when my girlfriend left i felt like i lost everything, my, life, happiness, future, everything just walked out the door.
Try the free self confidence course, and the hypnosis downloads are worth a shot too.
Personally im struggling with both, but thats because im just so stressed i am completely unable to concentrate on them.
Give it a try, and keep us posted.
Good luck.
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Postby isistherapy » Fri Jul 08, 2005 10:01 am

Hi

The answers to your nothingness really do lie within you. What is it that you are unhappy about? When did it start? If you were happy where would you be and what would you be doing? Whats stopping you from being at that point?

Just a few questions to ask yourself that may lead to a few answers being released and it might give you something to work on.

Let us know if you can tell us anymore and people of the forum might be able to offer more guidance and support.
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Postby supersezza » Fri Jul 08, 2005 12:14 pm

i would guess u feel empty because u have nothing to make u feel otherwise?

try doing some activities etc?
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Postby sunchild » Sat Jul 09, 2005 2:45 am

isistherapy wrote:Hi

The answers to your nothingness really do lie within you. What is it that you are unhappy about? When did it start? If you were happy where would you be and what would you be doing? Whats stopping you from being at that point?

Just a few questions to ask yourself that may lead to a few answers being released and it might give you something to work on.

Let us know if you can tell us anymore and people of the forum might be able to offer more guidance and support.

yupp i completely agree here the emptyness is there coz of unhappiness
i'll like to add here one thing is that express whatever you have in your mind in as many possible ways write it down
or paint ,color your feelings out that really helps you out in understanding
your own self
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Postby Dankly » Sun Nov 09, 2008 6:11 pm

I just read bigbear's post and thats the exact same way i feel. i feel completly empty inside, and feel that nothing matters. nothing excites me or makes me happy any longer, and ive lost all hope for the future. severe anxiety also compounds this, my hands constantly sweat and i find it almost impossible to relate to anyone. can someone tell me how to fix this or when it will stop?
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Postby dreamer27 » Tue Nov 18, 2008 1:29 am

Hmmm, I don't know, I've kind of felt like this, although I had stuff to say, I just couldn't decide what to say and was too frightened about what other people would think to say anything. Maybe you have hidden feelings or thoughts that you arn't revealing about yourself that needs to get out before you can communicate properly. Maybe you need to change your outlook from yourself to other people. What are your hobbies, likes, dislikes, things you used to enjoy, talk with people about them. Ask people questions, alot of time people like talking about themselves. Getting on an anti-depressant from your doctor could be a good direction to go. Although sometimes it tough to start because you have to try different ones to see which one will work for you. But that might help you get over your feelings of emptyness and get you out of the slump your in. Also maybe you need to search for your spirituality and your identity. Find a higher power, or a higher reason for living. Try focusing on the problems, needs, and desires of someone else and helping them. Mabye you just need to be a friend to someone. We are all connected in some way, through the things we find interesting, go out and get connected with people that have the same interests as you.
Also, if you had nothing to say, you wouldn't be able to make a post like this. You obviously have something to talk about.
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Postby findme » Wed Nov 26, 2008 10:24 am

bigbear826 wrote:I am dealing with Major anxiety and low self-esteem. I feel so numb inside as though something has stolen my identity and personality. I find it impossible to even make small talk with anyone much less my family. Communicating is hard for me because nothing is in my mind, there is nothing to say. What do I do. Has anyone else experinced this? I am looking for answers. Any kind of help would be a relief. Thanks and God bless.


i feel the same way. i sleep every night with the hope that tomorrow i might not wake up. i dont know who i am anymore, i feel so awkward around my family, friends. its been like this since before i could remember, i feel as if someone's poked holes in my and every little bit of who i was is now lost forever. i cant say im numb to feelings, im numb to everything except the sadness or whatever it is i feel that drives me to tears and crawl up in a ball.
any help? :cry:
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Postby dreamer27 » Sat Nov 29, 2008 5:44 am

Has any of you fallen into pornography on the internet?
just wondering.
Also there is help for you, don't lose hope.
I would recommend seing a councellor
Also it would be good to keep a journal that no one else
can read where you can write down your inmost thoughts and feelings
Just write whatever comes to your mind and you'll find that you get
alot out, try to do it every day. I'm not a professional though so
I'm sorry I can't offer any other help then what I've read elsewhere
and what has helped me.
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Postby kill_tomorrow » Sun Feb 01, 2009 3:08 am

findme wrote:
bigbear826 wrote:I am dealing with Major anxiety and low self-esteem. I feel so numb inside as though something has stolen my identity and personality. I find it impossible to even make small talk with anyone much less my family. Communicating is hard for me because nothing is in my mind, there is nothing to say. What do I do. Has anyone else experinced this? I am looking for answers. Any kind of help would be a relief. Thanks and God bless.


i feel the same way. i sleep every night with the hope that tomorrow i might not wake up. i dont know who i am anymore, i feel so awkward around my family, friends. its been like this since before i could remember, i feel as if someone's poked holes in my and every little bit of who i was is now lost forever. i cant say im numb to feelings, im numb to everything except the sadness or whatever it is i feel that drives me to tears and crawl up in a ball.
any help? :cry:


^ that seriously sounds like i wrote it.. :(
i use to write blogs about sh** like this trying to find someone who relates to it completely but all i got was negative comments and people telling me its impossible to feel like this your entire life, :evil: it gets me so pissed off just thinking about it
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Postby rapemolestsurvivor » Sun Feb 22, 2009 1:49 am

Re: Feeling empty inside, what do you do?

I'm looking for answers on that myself. I'm a 100% disabled veteran, I
was a victim of rape while enlisted in the Navy.
Prior to that I was raped at the age of 15, & sexually molested(by family
members) at the age of 7 & 10.
I have always felt like the out cast, I've never felt like I belonged anywhere.
I have been in therapy for many years through the VA system,
& have been on numerous psyche medications.
I smoked pot daily, for a great number of years trying to kill the emotional pain, by self medicationg.
I gave that up & year ago. I've tried going to church & finding God,
am currently still working on that one.
I feel so angry all of the time, especially toward men then I tend to numb out I'm paranoid alot of the time, I'm always hypervigilant, I suffer from claustraphobia, depressive modes. I don't sleep at all due to the nightmares I have. I'm constantly tired & feel totally drained
I feel lost & helpless, I can't handle large
crowds of people. I have not been on a date in years I see a couple together & happy & I get so depressed because I want that also.
I certainly don't trust people at all especially men even after all of that therapy. I do come from on my mothers side of the family, suicidal tendencies, alcoholism & drug addiction,.
I'm only 52 years old & I wake up most mornings wishing i had died in my
sleep. Is there any advice out there that I haven't heard yet?
Please help I'm falling apart!!
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Postby potta » Mon Nov 02, 2009 12:04 am

im not sure i no how u feel as we are all diffrent but i know inside im feeling very empty i cant talk to anyone and when i eventually talk to suomeone certian things i clam up on because i go blank some days i feel no emotion alot of the time the only thing i feel is emptyness depression or feeing alone i dont know why. i no childhood wasnt great life didnt get any easyer so i turned to drugs at the age of 12 to hope it wud build a wall between me and the things i wanted to forget in life but that also didnt seem to work. counciling didnt work for me either. nothing seemed to work ive tryed alot of things even ending my life i even prayed a few nights to have my life taken away from me but that didnt seem to work either. nothing did. im now 19 years old and classed as homeless the council wont find me somewhere so now i have to squat in places or sofa surf as its called traveling from sofa to sofa eiter at friends houses or anywhere. now i ask my self is this all i have going fr me in my life???????????????????? is this where my life ends??? because the way i feel its over nothing going for me at the moment. i gave up the drink and drugshopeing that it would get better or easyer but it seems to of chucked it back into my face. we all see things in diffrent ways i know but this is how ive seen it i came from a big family there was 9 of us in a 3 bed house shareing with 3brothers in the same room i was sleeping in until i became homeless.life doesnt seem to be going my way as i have currently been homeless for about 4 months now and it seems lke its getting harder and feel like giving up. if u have red this then it was upto you i just needed to let sumthing out and this is how it turned out to be maybe for a reason i dont know buh there it is and maybe my life wll get better when ever that maybe or it could get alot worse who knows but we will see what life chucks at us all as noneof us are the sae we are individual people and i hpe peoples lives turn out better than mine
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Postby dave J » Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:34 pm

Hi, just read your post and like a lot of people on this forum you feel like nothing and are depressed.I joined recently and have found the members really helpful. I suggest you look at some of the advice of books to read or sites to visit.Don,t worry with all the help available her on the forum I,m sure we can all help you and everyone who has similar symptoms as ours. Keep positive and chin up Bigbear. All the best Dave J
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Postby NSMD01 » Tue Nov 03, 2009 2:38 am

Man's mind is not meant to exist without content. Be it chasing down a food source or contemplating some abstract art piece or reading some intellectual novel, man's mind is meant to be doing something. That's why prison (solitary confinement) is torture. You have to look at yourself as a fish with gills that needs to be in water to breathe. If you decide that you can do meaningless things with your time and wonder why you are not happy, then you should do things that are meaningful to you in the greater context of your life (which invariably has goals - even if those are only to use the bathroom, breathe, and eat). Consciousness is not automatic. If you just sit and watch the world go by you will be unhappy. Life is pretty much what you make it. You'll get what you largely expect to get based on what you expect your actions will yield. You might have a large inheritance or be biding your time as you wait for "the system" to offer you the next step - be that a welfare check or another year in school, but that in itself has little meaning unless you give it any - by diligently applying yourself with your own creative energy. That's why people with low self confidence/self esteem are depressed - they feel like they have nothing to give, and they truly don't since they have decided not to. Drugs make people happy no matter the circumstance. If we could alter our biological settings at will (as if using drugs), it still wouldn't solve the problem. You'd be intensely happy all of the time before realizing that you are accomplishing nothing - as long as your rational thinking remained. So it's easy to be irrationally happy. The hard part is being happy for the right reason. Anyone can go pick up a stripper or throw down dice on a roulette board and get some of that happiness. The other kind of happiness can only be made by you and for you. It's a responsibility and if you don't take it you'll be wondering the rest of your life why you didn't.
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Postby tallp » Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:05 pm

Introspection might be the solution for a lot of you on this post.

Take a moment to count your blessings. However simple they might be. That includes the " homeless" person.

You have family that love you and will take you back. Those of you still struggling with self worth might want to consider volunteering at a shelter and see first hand how much better off you are.

When you have completed your introspection; and I would suggest not focusing on the negative aspects of it, be thankful for your gifts/strengths. repeat that thanks every morning and evening for a month and I challenge you not to have a better outlook on life.

I hope this helps

cheers

Paul
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