I hate my boss

Postby onioncrafty » Wed Oct 29, 2014 5:42 pm

I don't know how I can push myself to work enthusiastically when my boss makes my life a living hell. I really just want to start my own business right now so I can be my own boss.
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Postby Beloved » Wed Oct 29, 2014 8:38 pm

onioncrafty wrote:just want to start my own business right now so I can be my own boss.

In that case you will no longer have your boss's shortcomings to distract you from your own. Look before you leap.
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Postby whybotherwhynot » Thu Oct 30, 2014 6:04 pm

Talking about your boss: Is he/she the one who owns the company and the one who pays you, or just the one to supervise you?

If that "boss" who is just your supervisor or manager, and she/he treats you wrongly, you can make complaints to the higher management or your real boss if you know you work your best for the company, and you know you are not doing anything wrong, and then the problems belong to that supervisor or manager. Good employers or a real bosses/owners always want committed, engaged, productive employees. They know that not all supervisors and managers are always right. Supervisors and managers, in fact, are just employees too. Don't let them intimidate or bully you. And when you want to work well and enthusiastically, you think that you work for the boss who pays you, not for the "boss" who is just a supervisor or manager.

If your boss is the one who pays you and making your life a living hell, then there's no way you can stay. Look for another job as fast as you can.

If you really want to start your own business, do it by all means. If you don't have an ability to open your own business, it's different; if you are able to, why not?
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Sun Nov 02, 2014 1:18 pm

What is stopping you from working for yourself?
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Postby your.transformations » Tue Jan 20, 2015 1:34 pm

onioncrafty wrote:I don't know how I can push myself to work enthusiastically when my boss makes my life a living hell. I really just want to start my own business right now so I can be my own boss.


Having your own business can turn your life in living hell as well. Its not always easy, its actually rarely easy... perhaps you should just look for a new job, not all bosses make your life bad. But obviously if you have a good idea and you are capable of making it happen then there should not be any reasons for you not to try. Good luck!
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Postby Beloved » Tue Jan 20, 2015 3:26 pm

Narcissism, OCD and antisocial personality disorder is over-represented in management. If you research this you will at least know what to expect.
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Postby salolly » Fri May 15, 2015 9:32 am

I really want to know why you hate you boss? If you think that's not a good job for you, then you can quit.
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Postby Ardencaple » Sun Jan 31, 2016 6:09 pm

Without knowing more about your situation first hand it's hard to be sure on the advice I'd give here.

What can be the case is that we find ourselves interpreting our bosses motivations purely on their actions as they are directed towards us. This can limit our ability to correctly interpret the dynamic between us and our boss. They will be under all sorts of pressure and expectations from their own boss(es) and this will often directly affect the way in which they relate to us (and their other colleagues and subordinates).

While this doesn't necessarily change things if they're making our lives difficult, it can help us to work out a plan of action to make the situation better.

Try to resist the temptation to distance yourself from your boss - and if it's possible move towards him/her. If the vibe between you both is off kilter he/she will know it just as clearly as you do. This will only serve to extend the distance between you and you need to at least feel that you have done all you can to bridge that gap.

Moving towards might feel like the last thing you want to do but trying to find out what you can do to make your boss' life better, directly ease the pressure that they are under from their bosses, that they see you as an aly not as an enemy, even talking to them in those terms ("what can i do to support you?") can only improve the situation.

It's not a guarantee (they might be truly sociopathic) but if there;s a human being in there it might just unlock the situation. Accept that you may have to be the adult and make the first move in this respect
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Postby johnarkad » Thu Jul 07, 2016 4:44 pm

Being a boss is not easy. But if your workplace feels like hell,GO OUT FROM that hell.

People choose a job because of security, but having your own business is a great idea.
Push your dream NOW. You will be the boss and you can manage your time.
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Postby musahasan » Mon Aug 01, 2016 1:49 pm

I want to do something by own but i can not do that till now.
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Postby RenataR » Wed Sep 21, 2016 7:22 am

this is what I like about some people, "I can't work with my boss" so some one will complain, ask how to change it, but some people will just start their own business. Go for it :D
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