I have very low self-esteem due to being ugly

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Postby acekarimi » Thu Aug 10, 2017 4:06 pm

Hey Michael sorry to hear about how you feel but if you get a chance, order this book called Psycho Cybernetics. This book literally open up my eyes about what your looks has to do with your confidence and self esteem. the author was a cosmetic and reconstructive surgeon called Dr. Maxwell Malts. He specialized in giving people cosmetic surgery mainly to their face. Whenever he had a potential patient come in asking for a facial surgery because they thought they were ugly, he would observe and get to really understand his patients before doing any surgery. After years of doing this he did an experiment testing people who were post-surgery a few years later and kept a journal of his notes. He was surprised that only a small portion of these patients were actually truly better off after the surgery. A good portion of patients still felt the same crappy way about themselves! it was crazy but Dr. Maltz was not struck with curiosity

After further research and testing, he learned that people's confidence and self-esteem went up not because they had an actual better face or anything but that their SELF-IMAGE was changed about who they were. Intrigued by this, he experimented with a test group and asked these potential patients to try changing their self-image to that of a better one using certain exercises. Some time later, he discovered that this test group who didn't get any surgery done but went through the exercises, actually had the the SAME amount of self-esteem boost as those who went through cosmetic surgery. Think about that for a second....

This was a major breakthrough for Dr. Maltz because he realized he can influence a person's self-esteem and and self-image WITHOUT doing any surgery. But to do so he needed to help them create a better self image because their current one is not serving them properly and is actually hurting them. I could go on on and but the book is AMAZING. please check it out, it may change your perception of what you really think right now. Best wishes Michael
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Postby Thefundamentals » Thu Aug 10, 2017 10:27 pm

First of all woman do not care so much for an attractive guy. They care much more about how you make them feel, your energy, confidence, and charm. Woman do get in relationships with guys even if they are not the most attractive. It is not as important for them as it is for men.

Also, there are things that you can do to improve your appearence and make yourself more attractive.

Style. Upgrade your wardrobe and improve your style. Even attractive people can look bad if they do not have great style and people that aren't as attractive can become very attractive with good style. Get clothes that are stylish and if you wear glasses, get a good looking pair of glasses.

Workout. Put on some muscle and burn fat to have a really nice looking physique. Your clothes should also compliment your body type.

Get a stylish haircut. You can change your looks very dramatically with the way you style your hair. It can change someone appearance a lot.

This is just what you can do for your outter appearance. There is a lot you can do with your confidence, energy, body language.
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