Blushing in public speaking

Postby handheart » Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:23 am

Hy all ,i would say that i make good progress in me as a person with anxiety self confidence etc but sometimes i must make speach for my volunteer work at organization and i get blush like an idiot and my heart its beat hard .I am not such a shy guy but i think i am pogrames from my childhood and subcontient bring back to me this experience .I dont know what to do because i feel very ashamed when i blush
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Postby Luqman Khan » Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:32 am

If this blush is out of your control and automatic behavior then you need to gain control over it.

A good way to do this is by standing in front of a mirror and talking on a topic that you may have to speak about some day. You can also gather 4-5 friends and ask them to sit infront of you and ask you to talk on a topic. Start speaking with full confidence and ask them to switch topics every 5 minutes or so. Do this every week or as often as your friends and you can manage.

To compensate them for their time serve them tea and sandwiches. Also, it should all be fun :)
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Postby presentationblogger » Sun Jun 26, 2016 2:25 am

The nervous reactions we experience when speaking in public can be overcome by continuing to get out there and speak in public. No amount of preparation will help you to overcome nervous reactions except getting in front of an audience repeatedly.

That said, preparation is something you should do. But memorizing what you need to say is a bad way to prepare. Instead, understand your topic very well and map out the topics you need to speak about.

Hope this helps.
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Postby cynthialeighton » Wed Jun 29, 2016 5:39 pm

handheart wrote:sometimes i must make speach for my volunteer work


It might help you to go to the room where you will speak ahead of time. Practicing your first few words there can help you relax in that location and give you a good memory to draw upon.
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Postby All in the mind » Thu Jun 30, 2016 11:46 am

Practising public speaking is a useful way of connecting with the confident development of your speaking skills.

Blushing is an indication of your anxiety, but it does not define you as an “idiot” or a bad person. Your reaction to the blushing is making it worse. Being preoccupied with “I’ve got something to hide” will trigger more anxiety.

Aim to keep your focus on the speaking skills (you are good at what you do!), develop techniques that can lower your anxiety (breathing), and then focus outwards with confidence (externally, and away from your internal symptoms). Your audience will accept you, when you can accept you.

http://www.clinicalhypnotherapy-cardiff ... echniques/
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Postby PranasanaD » Tue Sep 26, 2017 3:57 pm

I agree with what everyone else said. Also, please question the belief that going red means you're an idiot! It doesn't! It only means you're human like everyone out there. Your nerves show more clearly and obviously than some. That can be used to your advantage. Others will feel less threatened to hear what you say and might be more compassionate.
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Postby pranjal.saxena » Sun Oct 29, 2017 9:51 pm

same issue.
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Postby laureat » Wed Nov 01, 2017 2:33 am

Success = confidence

This is reason of proposition about facing the fears: it is not only about facing the fears its about dealing with the problem until you learn how to make it work, and you also change how you feel about the situation

The proposition about talking to the mirror: is simply a practice to get more confortable and trust your permance: as a result you become less tense and perform even better

The more you do it: the better you become with it

When you have a clear idea what are you going to do: you are more comfortable: it is when you are unsure about that you may become tense

What exactly is making you uncomfortable? Fear of mistakes? You have to give oneself a freedom to make mistakes to improve and to accomplish your goals

Expectations from ourselves have to be reasonable: we should try to do good but we should also give ourselves the freedom we deserve to be ourselves to make mistakes, to nake jokes, to enjoy the situation and not make it extreme serious and tense situation
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