Hello All and thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post and for giving me advice!
Right i am 27, and i have just noticed recently that my height could be mainly the reason why i am still single.
I am 5ft8. I recognise i used to be very poor in self esteem during my adolescence (the results were very catastrophic in terms of first experience, etc.). Then when i was 22 i saw a psychologist who helped me developing my confidence, and nearly a year after, i could see some results, i was a bit satisfied (i managed to go out with some girls). But then i just realised from the age of 25 that i was dating a girl, everything went good but after about 5 months she said she wanted to stop while i was falling in love with her, she said she likes me but she doesn't see me as a boyfriend. I was tremendously disappointed. I also realised from online dating that the girls always asked my height (based on my pictures, etc.), a lot of them stopped chatting after that. I also noticed some girls accepted the first date (everything went perfectly, conversation, date, smiles, etc.) but the girl is still left with the doubt, then comes the sentence "I am happy to see you but as a friend".
I noticed they prefer much taller men and also the shortest girls (5ft5, etc.) are even more stringent with height and are looking for very tall men to find equilibrium for kids height.
I have a nice face and a nice smile and i have managed to have over the past 5 months at least 6 dates with 6 different girls, every time the dates went perfectly from my side (good laugh, etc.) but it went negatively after that ... Some say they see me just as a friend, others say "no chemistry", etc. I think it is due to my height?!
I have a nice face, very nice smile, etc. a good job as well and i dress well, i am sociable, etc. But the mystery is still on the height thing?
All my friends are in couple, all my colleagues as well, i always seem to be the only wrong sample, and also i am 27 now and have never had a proper relationship (my first sexual experience was at 22, i have been dating (5ft5, 5ft6 girls) after that but always for 2 months, 3, 4 or 5 months maximum because at the moment i make the request for relationship i get the famous reply "i like you and am happy to date you but i do not see you as a boyfriend" ...
I am really starting to worry about my future. It's a really difficult situation to handle, and also my parents put me pressure and do not seem to give me encouragement instead they tease me saying i am old and single, etc. It's really annoying to be single in such an environment. Why do girls give so much importance to height? (i see some guys not especially good looking from the face but tall and all in couple). Does that change much for a girl to date a guy of my height?
I am strong enough to give a girl the protection she needs just in case but do they think it all has to do with the height only?
I am not discouraged but sometimes your efforts do not pay straight away and you try to find out what's going wrong and improve it. But the height cannot be improved.
Also i read on some other forums that a woman in her 30's would more likely date a short man rather than in her 20's? Is it true? What advises can you give me?
I see some guys of my height dating beautiful girls out there (this is really rare to see, but i guess if i see it there is no reason why it should not be the case for me! So the hope is always there despite the fact that a lot of people seem impressed usually if they see me with a decent girl
Thanks in advance for your help!