My height worries me - please help!

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Postby ericchrys » Tue Sep 05, 2017 9:33 pm

@ AchievingAwesome

Thank you for the link, i will check it out! Can't wait to see what's up there!

I take the point on the flirt thing, i will insist on it from today.

I will also try to go out more often and move away from internet dating.

Cheers!
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Postby laureat » Wed Sep 06, 2017 1:30 am

You cannot "sell oneself" good enough if all you focus on is what you dont have

Sometimes all we focus on is the negatives about ourselves and that could somehow become a turnoff : it may push people away as you are the one not allowing them to see any positive about you

You have to allow people to see your positive side even if its not too much about it still could be enough to alow someone be happy around

Are the looks important to women? It could be
Is money important to women? It could be
Is intelligence important to women? It could be
Is the mindset you have important? It could be

There are lots of things that could be important to the woman but when she has to choose a man its not about what he doesnt have, its about what he have

If all you focus on is the negatives it becomes like an eclipse , you push people away
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Postby ericchrys » Wed Sep 06, 2017 3:27 pm

Hi @ Laureat
Thank you for your answer!
It's a positive way of thinking. I agree that the woman would choose you for the positive things that you have and that you show. But she will also reject you for the negative things that she sees and that you cannot hide, like the height for example!

But i take it that i should try to compensate the disadvantages of the height with lots of positive bits. So i should work on how to show more and more positive points. There need to be many and many of them in order to balance the height problem.
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Postby colinberry1 » Wed Sep 06, 2017 5:07 pm

Well I think it's all down to personality, and full commitment, I would marry my dogs and cats if they were human. I could go off a person in a second if they lie or have a dirty habit.
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Postby laureat » Thu Sep 07, 2017 1:25 am

you are defending the belief that you have that "woman reject because of height" and this doesnt improve your approach to the women

i cannot say that nobody will reject you because of that, but you cannot say that everyone will reject you because of that

even if someone rejects you because of that it is still about how you sell oneself like showing your positive side and convince her that You are perfect man for her, like you mentioned about compensating for the points

But when you say "compensating for the points" you should not approach women with that kind of pressure

Simply show your positive side

Because when you say " compensating " its because you see oneself as incomplete and you have to feel completed
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Postby ericchrys » Thu Sep 07, 2017 3:22 am

Hi @ Laureat

Thanks. Ok, i will just stay natural then when a pproaching the girl, and show my positive side.
Thanks again, not easy but i will get there soon!
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