I can't stand the way I look

Postby Unhappywithmyself » Sun Jul 16, 2017 5:00 pm

Hello! I know this will sound ridiculous but for 10 years I didn't take any photos of myself. I can't stand the way I look and photos are just a nightmare for me. I can't get over it. I used to be bullied in school because of the way I look. I'm 30 years old now, why can't I just accept it? Even my friends always tell me I'm not a good looking woman. I want to do things other people do, have a driving license and lead a normal life. It's affecting me a lot and I don't know what to do. Thank you
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Postby mindful entrepreneur » Tue Jul 18, 2017 1:46 am

Hi there,

First and foremost please understand no one is made perfect. We are all born in our own unique special way. One thing you can't do is compare yourself to others. Thats not why you were born. As of now my thinking is you have limiting beliefs about yourself. Our beliefs starts as a thought.

How about looking in the mirror and accepting the person you see? The fact is you haven't accepted who you are in your mind and that's where it starts. Next time you walk in front of mirror say to yourself that you're beautiful and own it. Believe that you are.

If you go around thinking to yourself that you're not beautiful, that same energy whether you know it or not feeds off on other people. It's simply the law of attraction. But if you walk around with your held high and exuberant confidence other people will notice that and have a deep sense of respect about you.

God made you for a reason and it certainly was not for you to wake up everyday feeling like your life isn't worth anything. Just accept who you are. You are beautiful. Don't beat yourself up. There are enough people out there that will do that for you. Here is token 99.9% percent of the good things you hear about you will come from you.

Hope this helps. Good luck
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Postby Frozendummy » Tue Jul 25, 2017 10:05 pm

Do some healing on your bullying first. You have to let it go. The you is not the you now and this past issue is making you pull back on who you are in the now. Only you can love you and I'm sure your not so bad. Your mindset will stop you and create a backdrop on who you are inside your heart.
Love love is wonderful start by affirmations daily such as you are not so bad. I am wonderful and I am beautiful. At first your gonna go uh uh nope not doing that. But everyone is beautiful in some way and so are you.
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Postby Thefundamentals » Sun Aug 13, 2017 7:50 pm

I agree with the other 2 posts.

Realize how your past is dictating your present and future.

Look back and see what happened when you were bullied. Instead of viewing their comments as words, you probably took it to heart and said this is who I am. This is the way I must be. And now you have been being and acting this way, when in fact what people say about you or how you look does not reflect who you really are.

Do not take to heart what other people are saying about you. Do not let what others say shape your reality of what you look like or who you are. Worry about who you want to become. The person you want to become is who you really are.

Look at all the pictures that you do have of yourself and just accept them. Do not make judgments about them. You need to stop making judgement about yourself and the way you look. Just take it at face value (no pun intended). Embrace and accept who you are and what you look like. There will always be someone else who appreciates who you really are, but you need to see it for yourself and love yourself first.

An action to take is to finally take a picture of yourself, love it, embrace it, and accept it no matter how it comes out or how it looks. Then look at yourself in the mirror without any judgments and give yourself a hug.
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