jimmyh wrote:Not everyone comes out stronger. Sometimes they just come out “not dead *yet*”, just one step closer. It’s not always obvious. These people will smile. They’ll act like nothing is wrong, and often they’ll really believe it and be unable to understand their problems. But their problems are still *there*. Unhandled.
Try talking to them though. Ask about the thing that f***ed them up. The ways it binds them will become obvious. While it doesn’t completely kill everyone, it does weigh them down to accumulate unhandled sh**. It can be something that only comes out on a certain anniversary and in certain infrequent conversations, or it can cost a very large part of the meaning and value of your life.
This was me. The last phrase is particularly applicable. (Interestingly, in light of what you've said, fears (some sense of self-preservation?) have mercifully kept me out of the worst would-be disasters. My nutty ideas and impulses are comical now, but they would have been very harmful, had I acted on them.)
Up until 25 June 2018 (and again in July) when I saw Ines for the SP session.
I was in such deep trance as to remember *virtually nothing* of what happened in those 2 hours. There were a bunch of questions and I remember permutations of “do you want her conscious mind to know about this?” and subconsciously answering “no” to those with a finger signal. I remember a few other phrases and words, and two regressions. I felt dazed, mind-blown and very tired, both afterwards and on the journey back to Denmark, but I'd been subbed to her YouTube channel, and knew even before I saw her f2f, my life would change. (Best not-so-nutty idea and impulse I ever had and I knew this was one to act on.) Over time, I began to notice things that were different in my mind. Same people, events, situations, circumstances, but my interpretations were different. I don’t even know of all the changes yet; I’m still discovering more. I was extensively reprogrammed, I swear; how else can I explain it?
I run the old tapes in my head, with all their de-ffirmations (I just coined the term) and some have vanished. I can’t even find the thoughts. Many are completely incongruent; they’re just not true. They probably never were, but I couldn’t see it or believe it before. Still others have weakened structures; the tape runs in my head, but if I look directly and assess them (with the help of a suggestion or two from some Random Guy on the Internet Who
Knows Stuff (and isn't an evil hypnotist)
or three or dozens from self-hypnosis) and process both consciously and subconsciously, they crumble or just lose their power. Like what happened here, earlier. The theme of remembering “you already know how to do this” is salient in terms of what’s happened since then.
When Tripp made those statements, it was very startling and made a big impression. Partly because they were so directly addressed to me, but it was more than that and I’ve now realized what it was. “You’ve handled everything that’s come your way in life, because you’re here” was only true in the sense that I was physically alive today. But in reality I was only “not dead yet” (before the session with Ines, that is). There
were many things I could not be said to have meaningfully “handled”. Some things did make me stronger, but I’ve also had people pumping me up before with “you can do it”, then done it without fully believing in myself, and failed - and it didn’t make me stronger, it just eroded my self-worth further, pulled in more sh** and compacted what was already there. So yes, I can see he was in hypnotist failure mode, in not knowing me or anyone who would watch the video or our life stories, merely reacting to my statement. And that was irresponsible and potentially dangerous. Your post is SO true. I sat and wondered what might have happened, had I seen the video earlier this year, when a clinic was but a pipedream. Failure
would very likely have crushed me. (Thanks for the courage pointer, but now you see why I rejected it without even a passing thought, old tape running. I see it now, though.
)
I think I picked up the "handled, because you're alive" sense, because I was so caught up in the next two statements/suggestions: “You’ll handle everything that comes your way in life” and “Know this, and know this deeply … you’ll handle it”. The past few days since your post, I’ve been both thinking and ”doing nothing”, and it’s come to me, “you didn’t believe that before and so you didn’t handle things, but you
know that now and you
do know it deeply”. It’s been three months since the sessions. When he said them, those statements were
already true for me. Hence the impact. No-one’s shouting over my tapes this time, I have
my own knowing. I know if I struggle or fail with this next venture, it won’t break me, it’ll make me stronger. It took me a few days to realize it, but your post highlighted where I was before, and Tripp’s statements highlighted where I am now. The differences are stark, hence my reflexive tears in response to your post; and my heightened and very introspective emotionality since then.
Don’t ask me what software engineering happened in the session with Ines; I don’t know. All I know is that since then, I've changed. Beyond my wildest dreams. And I’m grateful, so grateful.
) I just stumbled upon this article about facing failure which seems particularly apt, at least for what I'm looking to do.
