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#45

Postby Candid » Thu Jan 24, 2019 8:17 am

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Hopefully you learned that how you behave is not what women find attractive. It isn’t about physical appearance, but about how you behave, how you communicate. [...]

Alas, based on your posts it seems like you have learned nothing. You say you did nothing wrong and it is just an unfair world.
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#46

Postby Guess what? » Thu Jan 24, 2019 2:08 pm

since she dumped me up just to stay for a better looking guy I sure learn something
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Fri Jan 25, 2019 1:10 am

Guess what? wrote: ... just to stay for a better looking guy ...


Nope. You didn’t learn anything.

She DID NOT dump you just for a better looking guy. That is not the ONLY factor. She dumped you for multiple reasons. She dumped you for many of the reasons you have posted for in here. She dumped you for the reasons her friends told you.

You have been a needy borderline stalker that expected sex in return for your time and gifts. You approached her as an insecure boy instead of being a man.

There are many, many, many good reasons she dumped you, but you close your eyes. She has learned something, you have not. She will not make the same mistake again, but you will,

You are destined to repeat your same mistakes again and again, because you have learned nothing.
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#48

Postby Guess what? » Fri Jan 25, 2019 3:21 am

I don't understand why I should be a "stalker"... anyway, tl;dr, what to do?
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Fri Jan 25, 2019 3:59 am

Guess what? wrote: ...anyway, tl;dr, what to do?


Tl;dr - it’s pointless to give advice to someone that doesn’t read it. So, enjoy your misery Guess what?

For any young guy out there that does have 30 seconds to read and wants to avoid being miserable like the OP, don’t behave like the OP. Don’t think like the OP. Read over this thread and avoid all of the mistakes the OP made with this girl and in this forum. Take responsibility for your faults and don’t just blow off the advice or ignore the advice provided, in this case by friends of the girl and members of this forum.

If you act like the OP, if you ask for help, but then say tl;dr, then don’t be surprised when people in your life stop responding when you ask, “what to do?”.
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Postby Guess what? » Sat Jan 26, 2019 1:38 am

yeah, well, thanks
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#51

Postby lol4er » Sun Jan 27, 2019 6:39 pm

really familiar situation.... It all goes away when you decrease the importance of women
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Postby Guess what? » Fri Feb 08, 2019 5:13 pm

lol4er wrote:really familiar situation.... It all goes away when you decrease the importance of women


It is not about the importcance of women.
It is about being treated with a pinch of respect at least.

Sure i'm bitter cuz she left me. But i can't claim her interest for my alone. But it's the way... i just said her some days ago that i was really started to get attached to her (and she lied with "me too"); while i putted all myself the make her confortable with me, and she decided to left all without saying anything. Just starting to avoid me like if i did a wrong to her.

I asked to her for a little meeting at the new year's eve, after more than 2 months, and she told me a stupid excuse to spend it with another one. Then she disappeared and cutted me off.

Women have no limits of decency. Really you can't trust them.
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Postby Candid » Sat Feb 09, 2019 7:58 am

Oh goody, another women-hating thread.

She wasn't allowed to have made another arrangement for New Year's Eve? One where all she had to do was enjoy herself, instead of listening to you demanding explanations for why she cut you off?

As to your last line... do women a favour and stop pretending to have any respect or love for them.
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Postby Guess what? » Sun Feb 10, 2019 4:50 am

Candid wrote:She wasn't allowed to have made another arrangement for New Year's Eve? One where all she had to do was enjoy herself, instead of listening to you demanding explanations for why she cut you off?


what are you talking about? I asked her to meet just for few seconds, and she said "no" just she was with another guy.
If i was the one who stay with another girl, i would be the crappy one .

Just now a girl ask me to take her up to come in a disco; when she said she doesn't trust me when i wanted to dance with her. But when i drive to bring her somewhere... she trust

Candid wrote:Oh goody, another women-hating thread.


It's not. But in case... ask yourself why. it's that guys must be treated like toxic femministes say, or just because women have too lot now?
Incels situation is an answer

Candid wrote:As to your last line... do women a favour and stop pretending to have any respect or love for them.


I have respect for who respect me. Women are not included in this list. Just one have some respect and told me that she was not interested... and you know what? I say "Okay... good luck with university and your life" cause she was honest with me.
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 10, 2019 8:04 am

Guess what? wrote:I asked her to meet just for few seconds


What did you hope to accomplish in that time? Just curious.
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Postby Guess what? » Sun Feb 10, 2019 7:23 pm

What's the point? I wished just to see her... For the new year at least.

The message was:
"Cause in case after my dinner i can pass where you will be so we can celebrate the new year together for a while :) "

She said no and i said there wasn't problem and end of story.
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Postby quietvoice » Sun Feb 10, 2019 8:22 pm

Guess what? wrote:The message was:
"Cause in case after my dinner i can pass where you will be so we can celebrate the new year together for a while :) "

She said no and i said there wasn't problem and end of story.

I asked her to meet just for few seconds,

I'm a stickler for consistency in what people say . . .

If something is off, I question the veracity of their story . . .

So, I'm questioning:
First you tell us "few seconds" and then it's "for a while" . . .

Tell me why we ought to trust what you are telling us. Can you see that not having an awareness of the details of your life, or offhandedly saying one thing and then another thing that contradicts the first, can have someone not believing what you've got to say?
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Postby Guess what? » Mon Feb 11, 2019 1:55 am

"few seconds" was a metaphor.
i mean.. i didn't think there was the needing of explaining it o_o
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Postby quietvoice » Mon Feb 11, 2019 2:53 am

Guess what? wrote:"few seconds" was a metaphor.
i mean.. i didn't think there was the needing of explaining it o_o

One's communication skills majorly impacts one's relationships. Lacking specificity when describing your story to strangers while asking for advice based upon that story, then changing a relevant detail in a followup post, can leave one with an impression of purposeful vagueness to build a better impression of oneself than the facts warrant. How you present yourself here correlates to how you present to those in your life outside of here.

What did you want to convey to us when at first your few seconds of time with someone is suddenly a little while, which does make a difference to a young lady who wants to spend time with their chosen escort on a socially important date?
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