time goes by

[desperate788]

And I'm always crying and suffering..

[desperate788]

Ten years ago I was at adana I was very sick but happy I had struggles at work but that was part of life. My hardest days were at urfa then stabilisation by drugs and antep. Now I'm at manisa. The most magical and happy days were the ones at adana.

[Candid]

You were here on the forum 10 years ago, and you started out engaging well with other forum members. Even so, you signed up as "desperate". By the time you started the "hard days" diaries you were hypnotising yourself all day every day with Gloomy Thoughts.

It's easy to look back and think we were happier then, but most of us have the same old problems year in, year out. If we keep thinking about them and talking about them, that's all we get.

I know you can do better.

[desperate788]

One thing is certain it was ten years of suffering but I must accept there were a few good days too. Hope suffering ends and everyday becomes good.

[Roman_K]

Time will pass anyway. Why not to find something you like and get really good at it?

[desperate788]

I would like a hobby to enjoy but nothing interests me..What would you recommend to do?

[Roman_K]

Why hobby and not a huge goal?

What I learnt from Bob Proctor is that setting huge goals is the only way to live a meaningful and happy life.

Try Earl Nightingale's The Strangest Secret. I had to listen to it 3 times to get it. And never looked back. Hope that helps.

[desperate788]

I have a huge goal..plenty of them. Getting my libido back travelling world living close to my mother. How are they?

[Roman_K]

These are good goals, but as per Bob Proctor's and Earl Nightingale's definition they are not huge.

Here is how these 2 authors define huge goals: a huge goal must scare and exhilarate you at the same time. If it doesn't excite you - not a huge goal. Not scary? Still not good.

The next question is: if it scares me how can I possibly achieve it?

You don't have to know. What you do have to know is the concept of multiple levels of resistance. Most people set a huge goal, experience hardships and bounce back at the first sign of failure.

But those people who know how the mind works break through the wall of terror and finally find the money, resources, help, time to achieve the goal.

You can google Bob Proctor's ABC goal system if it seems interesting...

[desperate788]

How would it be a goal if it's scary..why would I want a scary thing happen to me? Google it now

[Roman_K]

Scary in terms of achieving it. When you think I really want to go for it but there is no way I can achieve it. You simply don't believe it's possible.

But then we go into the whole world of re-programming mind paradigms and changing self-limiting beliefs.

[desperate788]

I understand..This suits my situation indeed. Do you have any audio book links. One I found is problematic. I would like to be rich but it's not so important. I say this because it's related to think rich grow rich at the reading I made.

[desperate788]

I would like to be worry and anxiety free at most

[Roman_K]

Sorry I can't post links as I am a new member. But just google or even YouTube Bob Proctor and his goal setting system. Something like: "Bob Proctor goals setting"

I have been doing it myself for ages, can't believe where I am now, can't believe what kind of person I used to be years ago before I found Earl Nightingale "The strangest secret" record and then Bob Proctor, Jim Rohn, Brian Tracy and the list goes on and on.

But don't be overwhelmed, start with understanding Bob Proctor's ABC goals system. I have a few links but can't share them technically. Just google or you tube - plenty of stuff out there.

[Roman_K]

If worries are your main concern I would recommend a different step then: read Dale Carnegie's "How To Stop Worrying And Start Living Book" - helped me a lot years ago. That's probably one of the best books out there. Or any book by Louise Hay will be good as well.