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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:13 pm

Can't help you with that, buddy.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:19 pm

I trust you can help..You are a very good friend. You could stand my idiocy for a very long time. Thank you very much.
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#212

Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:20 pm

I think every word I write here is a reflection of unbelievable idiocy.
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:34 pm

I agree with you. You say you want things, a lot, but you won't do anything about getting them. That's beyond my comprehension, iow I find it unbelievable.

But no, I can't help you, not with anything. Most of the 'problems' you present are imaginary, eg. your worries about doing something wrong at work, losing your umbrella, locking your colleague in at the office. Worrying about ridiculous possibilities seems to be your chief hobby. It's like I'm sitting here and I think I'd really like to go out, but I won't go out because there might be a rampaging elephant on the street. Most of the stuff you post is like that.

So that's one kind of problem I can't help you with, because there isn't actually a problem.

The more annoying stuff is about lifestyle choices. You say you really hate working at the tax office, so I suggest you leave, then you tell me you can't leave.

You say you really want to live nearer your mother, and you'd much rather live in Istanbul instead of Manisa, so I say go, I'm all for it. Then you come up with reasons why you "can't" do that, either.

So we go round and round in tedious circles, and nothing changes for you. You keep presenting the same "problems" but they aren't really problems, at least, nothing you want solutions for. So no one can help you.

Except you. You can help you. Only you can get yourself to where you want to be, with the friends you want to have, with the romance you want, the lot. Endlessly posting on here isn't going to do that for you.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:42 pm

I understand you..I'm aware most of my complaints are nonsense but I can't tell this to idiot inside
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:48 pm

This is actually a breakthrough. There's a wise desperate788 who knows exactly what he wants and how to get it, and there's a smaller desperate, the saboteur inside, whose job is to make you miserable.

How about you start a dialogue with this smaller, obnoxious part of yourself? Tell it to go away and leave you alone. Tell it what you want, and what you intend to have, and that nothing it says is going to stop you. Fight it -- or it'll kill you.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 2:55 pm

Go away idiot desperate788 leave me alone I want to have a good life...something like this? I can't identify it exactly.
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#217

Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 3:24 pm

Like leafs dropping from trees in autumn weekend ends
when will this suffering from work end?
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#218

Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 3:27 pm

Idiot poetry
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 4:10 pm

desperate788 wrote:Go away idiot desperate788 leave me alone I want to have a good life...something like this?


Yes, just like that. Then tell him what you want and expect out of life, and what you're going to do about getting it.

Let him raise all the objections he wants: You're scared to be near your father. You're worried you're going to have no money. You think you can't find a better job... Whatever. And argue with him.

Tell him: I hear what you're saying, but if I don't make some changes I might as well be dead.

It's true, you know.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 4:18 pm

Yes I may be dead..but as stated at board a brave man dies once coward dies everyday. Like that I already die everyday.
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 4:53 pm

So you might as well go back to Istanbul.

Don't tell me you're more afraid of your father than you are of death!
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 4:58 pm

This is interesting it's not exactly being afraid things he can do with his intelligence I'm afraid, he could hypnotise me made me do things I dont remember such freaking things I worry if he can arrange a second military service for me
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Postby Candid » Sun Feb 24, 2019 5:06 pm

No, he can't. And I don't believe he ever hypnotised you to do things you can't remember.
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Postby desperate788 » Sun Feb 24, 2019 5:07 pm

He should have done that also he physically harmed me and I forgot. My mind is in such a mess.
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