Calling everyone suffering anxiety, are these symptoms corre

Postby walkingonglass » Sat Mar 02, 2019 1:14 pm

Hi everyone.
I have been with a partner who suffers from anxiety (and some depression), for about many years. Recently his anxiety has gotten alot worse, and i feel like the only emotion he feels is either irritation, frustration or anger. Otherwise he feels completely empty and unhappy and has a void in him he says.
Him getting irritated and frustrated happens a lot and he takes this out on me a lot. It can be if i say something, do something, or ask him to repeat himself, small stuff set him off and its so tiring for me. I searched the web about anxiety and frustration/irritation and found these symptoms and traits:

Anxiety Frustration; Frustrated; Easily Annoyed
The symptom:
You find yourself feeling more frustrated and annoyed than normal.
It can also seem as if your patience runs out more quickly.
It can also seem like you are disappointed more quickly and more often than normal.
Even what would normally be considered minor issues now make you highly upset, annoyed, and angry.
It feels like you are overly quick to react.
It seems like you are more easily disappointed.
You find your frustration is like a hair-trigger, with any little irritant setting you off.
It seems like people frustrate you much more than normal.
It seems things upset you more than normal.
It seems like everything is much more frustrating than normal.

I wanted to know if anyone suffering anxiety can relate to these traits becauae i feel like it fits my partner massively. Sometime i take his reactions personally and i feel like i do and say everything wrong. Thanks for all the help everyone
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Postby quietvoice » Sat Mar 02, 2019 2:03 pm

Eight years you've been living this way . . .

You have over 40 posts about how you and your boyfriend have this great relationship, BUT, that he's got a major personality trait called anxiety that seems to annoy you.

What do you want? What do you really, really want? If you could break away from this person, and went about finding out how you are by yourself without having a significant other, would that scare you? Would you do it?
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Postby walkingonglass » Sat Mar 02, 2019 5:25 pm

Hi,
Thanks for your very helpful reply.

Lets get something very straight, his anxiety does not ANNOY me. Is it hard to be with someone who suffers from mental health and refuses to seek help? YES, thats just facts. I haven't left because he's a good man. I could have left years ago, NO it does not scare me to be alone. I fought to be in this relationship because I think its worth fighting for, not throwing. I have posted in this forum before to seek knowledge, and thats why I wrote today. I do not know many people at all who have anxiety, and most of my friends do not understand it and say "leave him". Hence why i came here for some clarity cause guess what? Being the partner of someone who is suffering so badly is VERY VERY hard.
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Postby quietvoice » Sat Mar 02, 2019 5:58 pm

Alrighty, then.

Obviously, the anxiety that he displays is more than an annoyance. It bothers you enough to write 40 posts about it at this board.

Candid, on Mon Jul 16, 2018 wrote:
walkingonglass wrote:his work bores him, his friends bore him, I bore him.


Is this what you want from a relationship? Walking on glass may seem acceptable (or even fun?) to you now, but it's unlikely to get any easier.


walkingonglass, on Sat Jun 10, 2017 wrote:Also, when he did say he didn't feel the spark and no excitement etc etc I calmly asked him
'okay so what would you like to do about it'
And he got really wound up. He said he wanted to discuss his feelings with me and I shouldn't ask that question.
I said to him 'I don't mean it in a bad way, I don't want you to be in a situation where you feel uncomfortable so I'm just asking you what you feel is the best solution'
Again, got really wound up. And he said 'well the only answer to that question is either that we carry on or we break up isn't it? So I don't understand why you ask that!'

I'm confused of his reaction tbh!

walkingonglass wrote: I've been through so many of his hard times and stood by him when he's been at his lowest points, mentally, physically, financially, been through abusive behaviors etc etc

I don't think you can be by yourself, to figure out who you are without someone around for you to mother. You've been with him since the age of 21. You call him immature. You've been through abusive experiences with him. You are his caretaker; this is not a romantic relationship. He doesn't even have the hots for you.

(I'm guessing) every post you've made here has to do with him. What about you?
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